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Another thread asking for you to share your parenting fails so that I feel less of a scummy mummy...

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ReanimatedSGB Wed 06-Dec-17 08:34:34

DS is 13. I am a single parent though DS' dad is very involved in his life and we are all on good terms.
DS was off school sick yesterday (nothing major, just a feverish cold, and was almost better - he has gone back to school today). I had to go to work in the evening so left him with a ready meal and his Wii U.

The electricity meter went off. (I hadn't realised how much DS was caning the little portable heater, I had topped the key up the day before). DS went to a neighbour to borrow a phone and call me, and promptly locked himself out - barefoot and in pyjamas. I didn't hear the call. Neighbours took him in and managed to get hold of his dad, who came over and collected him from the neighbours' house, but I am going to have to go and thank them and get stared at, aren't I?

CheapSausagesAndSpam Wed 06-Dec-17 08:59:42

No...! It's something that could happen to anyone OP! It happens to perfectly capable adults.

I once went to my neighbours to help him phone BT....he was elderly and couldn't cope with the multiple choice thing...then my door slammed. I had to get another neighbour to break in!

Tell DS to lay off the portable heater next time he's ill and stay in bed!

Oysterbabe Wed 06-Dec-17 09:18:30

Don't beat yourself up, these things happen.

I'm 39 weeks pregnant, feel like absolute shit. The TV is more of a mother to my 2 year old than I am right now.

jimijack Wed 06-Dec-17 09:26:15

I realized after quizzing dh that we had not brushed ds's teeth for a day & a half .

Mine watch way too much tv'

Chapterandverse Wed 06-Dec-17 09:30:31

I have spontaneously given mine the day off school (and me off work) because I am tired and wanted a lazy day blush

treeofhearts Wed 06-Dec-17 09:32:54

That's not even a parenting fail! He's 13 and was a bit of a Muppet and locked himself out. Not your fault.

blackheartsgirl Wed 06-Dec-17 09:36:52

I posted on here last night that dd missed her guide promise because I got time completely wrong. I am recovering from hand surgery so things are a bit hit and miss at the mo

user1494409994 Wed 06-Dec-17 09:38:29

He's a dumpling that went out in bare feet with a cold at this time of year

bustraintram Wed 06-Dec-17 09:43:09

@Chapterandverse I'm sorry but that IS unreasonable, you have a duty to get your kids to school and I hope you haven't called in sick to work as that is hugely screwing over your employer if you're too lazy to go to work

iggleypiggly Wed 06-Dec-17 09:58:17

busttrain are you serious?? confused

MrsPear Wed 06-Dec-17 09:59:27

Right op few life lessons for your son
1) pre payment keys have emergency fund. Just put the key in and it will click on.
2) if you pop out briefly either take a key or put the door on latch.

He is a teenagerand mad a rookie error it is not your fault.

I felt terrible the other week as my eight year went to school without breakfast. I laid it all out but didn’t remind him to help himself and he forgot confused thankfully they have fruit tuck shop at break.

KinkyAfro Wed 06-Dec-17 10:01:40

I'm with butt outrageous to stay off work because you can't be bothered!

KinkyAfro Wed 06-Dec-17 10:02:14

Sorry bustrain no idea why it corrected to butt!

Apileofballyhoo Wed 06-Dec-17 10:05:12

DS is an only and spends way too much time with screens. Even when he's doing something else, he'll have the screen on in the background.

MyKingdomForBrie Wed 06-Dec-17 10:10:44

This is not the thread to be making judgements on though bustrain et al.

Judge silently if you must judge at all.

Not your fault he went barefoot and got locked out! You will have to say thank you but I’m sure they won’t stare grin

ReanimatedSGB Wed 06-Dec-17 10:37:44

I have already had a chat with DS about wiggling the key for emergency credit... Mind you, at least I know that he a) has both my phone number and his dad's off by heart and b) remembered what had always been the rule about what to do if something goes wrong when he's alone: go to a neighbour.

His dad reckons he showed initiative and fortunately wasn't too put out at having to skip the Christmas party he was going to in order to collect DS...

Chapterandverse Wed 06-Dec-17 12:26:07

@bust & Kinky....

I took a day holiday.... (But am grin at "screwing over" my employer)

The children are teenagers and had a week of exams last week.

So frankly I couldn't give a damn what anyone thinks grin

They will return to school (and I to work) tomorrow.

Soubriquet Wed 06-Dec-17 12:32:34

Least he was responsible OP.

My parenting failure had to be this weekend.

We went to winter wonderland in Hyde park. Poor Dd started getting hungry around 6 (her usual bed time) but because of the queues and busyness of London, didn't actually eat until 9!

Poor little sausage fell asleep with one hand inside her happy meal box. Felt very guilty but she's fine!

aSleepyPrincess Wed 06-Dec-17 13:09:48

I dislike threads like this immensely, let's all congratulate ourselves on how crap we have been as parents. I totally get that we all have bad days and make mistakes but surely being proud of them and giggling away on here is just not right? hmm

CheapSausagesAndSpam Wed 06-Dec-17 13:31:45

Princess nobody is congratulating anyone. Or giggling. Find something real to dislike immensely.

Oysterbabe Wed 06-Dec-17 13:35:20

It's not about being proud of them. It's about realising that none of us are perfect parents and taking comfort from the fact that others aren't always on their best form either rather than beating ourselves up too much.

blackheartsgirl Wed 06-Dec-17 13:50:35

What oyster said. I’m not proud or giggling about the fact that I messed up last night. I feel awful that I forgot dds eventbut it’s hugely comforting to know that other parents have their moments at parenting too

KinkyAfro Wed 06-Dec-17 13:55:27

Well if you booked a day off that's different but you didn't say that in your post

TammySwansonTwo Wed 06-Dec-17 14:05:19

One of my 14 month old boys has spent at least 3 hours in front of CBeebies today. I am really sick and so is his twin brother, and he's been a little angel sitting and watching quietly between eating, changes and sleeping. I love him so much right now grin

Also, I frequently play Lady Gaga's Bad Romance video at them despite it being totally inappropriate because they are completely transfixed by it and it gives me time to make a coffee.

user9217 Wed 06-Dec-17 14:42:15

@Soubriquet
Poor little sausage fell asleep with one hand inside her happy meal box. Felt very guilty but she's fine!

This really made me LOL. Bless her 💕 haha.

Op it sounds like your DS was very sensible about the whole thing as you said going to a neighbour for help etc - we've all locked ourselves in at one point. It happens!! thanks

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