We had a baby sitter at the weekend. We decided to pay her a little extra. DH hands over the money folded up but didn't mention the extra cash. Girls takes it still folded but also didn't check the amount! We thanked her and she left! I asked DH why he didn't say we are giving extra, he just shrugs. I've seen her since and she hasn't mentioned it. I wonder if she has not looked at the money yet but I kinda want to be acknowledged for it otherwise, what's the point of paying extra?? WiBU to mention it the next time I see her?
@MumGoneMild@Pengggwn I don't think she even knows we are trying to say we really appreciate her! I wanted to be able to tell her and then give her the extra! And I have seen her since, even if I shouldn't expect any thanks, shouldn't she say thank you anyway when she saw the extra money!?
Making a big thing of giving her extra is a bit patronising in my opinion. It's always a bit awkward giving/receiving payment., folding it up and handing it over is the right thing to do. This does read like you want to be considered benevolent and generous tbh.
I think people are deliberately skewing my posts. I'm not trying to patronise the babysitter or trying to be a hero for paying more money. We paid her 50% more. If we didn't tell her about it and she hasn't realised it has happened, like Pengggwn** said she wouldn't notice it in her purse, then how have we shown her appreciation?? And if she has indeed realised the extra money since, wouldn't it be polite to acknowledge it? We are just not allow to say anything to let her know we think she did a good job!?
I'm a nanny and babysit if I got an extra £5 or a £42 babysit rounded upto £50 if be happy and grateful but wouldn't be writing thrm a thank you note. An extra £20 And if text just to say - I think you've over paid
Whether you've let her know or she just has extra in her purse, the result is the same! She will have extra cash regardless. People don't usually have no idea how much money they have so she will likely have already noticed. It might be embarrassing for her to bring up but it will be much more cringy if you do now.
I babysit, I never count the money in front of people, it's embarrassing enough to stand there while they fiddle with wallets and try to count whilst pissed. I'd also feel like I was checking up on them if I counted it in front of them, as if I thought they'd shortchange me. Depending on the time I get home and how knackered I am I will either see how much there is then or stick it in a spare wallet nd go straight to bed. It would be nice if she'd text you to say thank you for the Christmas bonus but assuming she said a standard thanks when you handed it over initially she may feel she doesn't need to or she's worried it was a mistake and you'll ask for it back if she acknowledges it!