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Mothers with enormous toddlers in slings...

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CheapSausagesAndSpam Wed 06-Dec-17 00:15:52

AIBU to wonder how the feck they manage?

My neighbour has just walked past my window with her son dangling in front of her like a bloody giant in a harness!

He's almost 4! No SEN and very sturdy/capable.

We live in a tiny town/village and she can drive etc....she's probably just going to the shop down the road.


Waytroze Wed 06-Dec-17 00:16:42

Why not?

PeaceLoveAndDixie Wed 06-Dec-17 00:20:14

Sometimes if I’ve had to wake my 4yo up, for instance on the school run, he can be super grumpy and refuse to walk and a sling where he can snuggle back to sleep is way easier than carrying a flailing child. Granted I couldn’t carry him for long but with a good sling I can manage up to an hour. As an aside, are you in the Uk? Is very late for someone to be out walking with their kids!

YesILikeItToo Wed 06-Dec-17 00:20:55

Hard habit to break. It’s grand having them up where you can hear each other. I remember passing an ice-cream come over my shoulder to my toddler in a wrap on my back - another customer was mouthing ‘Nooooo’ at me as I cautioned her to be careful of my hair. She must have been pretty big if I thought that had any chance of being OK.

Marryoneorbecomeone Wed 06-Dec-17 00:21:04

Why not? I bet it’s nice for the child. My pelvic floor would be in my socks sadly.

Oddish Wed 06-Dec-17 00:21:59

What bearing does it have in your own life?

DartmoorDoughnut Wed 06-Dec-17 00:22:17

I carry my 3yr old all the time, why does it bother you? Why is it any of your business how she gets about?

Migraleve Wed 06-Dec-17 00:22:30

I know someone who tandem carried until her twins were 4.5

God knows how by she said it was comfortable for them all and often easier, although of course they also often walked

Iwasjustabouttosaythat Wed 06-Dec-17 00:23:48

Maybe he asked and she's a nice mum so she said ok? Stop spying on your neighbours through the window and get a real hobby.

RoderickRules Wed 06-Dec-17 00:25:33


Italiangreyhound Wed 06-Dec-17 00:35:37

Waytroze "Why not?" Because I would imagine carrying a four year old around could seriously damage your back and being carried around as a four year old will not encourage independence and walking.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat I don't think looking out the window and noticing something counts as spying!

RiseToday Wed 06-Dec-17 00:36:55

He's 4?! Bloody hell, fair play. I'd be crippled.

My husband occasionally carries our 2.5 yr old in the back carrier and that's bad enough.

Terramirabilis Wed 06-Dec-17 00:37:26

Bloody hell! I had to give up carrying DS at about 9 months! (Short torso, tall baby.) He'd cover my entire body from the neck to the knees pretty much if I carried him now (3 years old). She must be a bodybuilder.

FormerlyFrikadela01 Wed 06-Dec-17 00:41:22

Id be taking my hat off to her for managing it. I could only manage my newborn in a sling for about an hour before my back started to ache, my back just didn't like any of the slings I hired.

EB123 Wed 06-Dec-17 00:42:08

I think it can be really useful to have a carrier, much more portable than a pushchair. We went to London for a few days with a toddler and a carrier and it worked really well.

Having said that u had to give up carrying my youngest at 14 months as he was just too long to wear on my front (i am only 5ft) and he hated going on my back.

Jakeyboy1 Wed 06-Dec-17 00:42:44

And they all look the same... long hair with grey roots, pear shaped, long skirt. 😂 it's a sisterhood I've not entered, must be so bad for the back!

Italiangreyhound Wed 06-Dec-17 00:43:55

To be honest I'd probably give her a medal - I didn't even carry my delicate dd as a baby, I was too worried about backache!

TooGood2BeFalse Wed 06-Dec-17 00:47:56

Neither of my kids were too fussed about slings. My five year old is already 130cm! So carrying him at that age would have been out of the question.

My friend has a 5 year old that still uses a baby bottle sometimes. She's a wonderful mother by the way.

I'm not remotely interested in how other people parent.So I would suggest you ignore it and mind your own. If you don't know, don't judge.

Tartyflette Wed 06-Dec-17 00:49:46

I'd duck if I were you, Jakeyboy .

TwoBobs Wed 06-Dec-17 00:52:49

I carried my (SEN) 8 year old in a sling on holiday. It was to stop her fighting with her (SEN) 7 yo brother about who was going in the Maclaren Major SEN buggy and also because she felt safe and less anxious cuddled close to Mummy. After about 20 mins my legs felt a bit dead grin

CheeriosEverywhere Wed 06-Dec-17 00:56:03

Why not?" Because I would imagine carrying a four year old around could seriously damage your back and being carried around as a four year old will not encourage independence and walking

Its her back to damage if she wants, but there is no reason it would with a proper sling. And I doubt the child is only ever carried and never walks. Do four year olds really need to be independent? Bit young, no?

Italiangreyhound Wed 06-Dec-17 01:01:46

CheeriosEverywhere yes it is the mum's back. But it doesn't stop others wondering if that is the best thing. Not suggesting the OP wrestles the child off the mum! By'Independent' I meant walking independently. Not set up in a flat in London independent! grin

As someone who has a bad back, I do wonder if people realize the damage they can do to their backs. Many women the world over carry babies on their backs, or their fronts, but they have carried a lot before and maybe are stronger. I just think that it could be harmful.

Seeingadistance Wed 06-Dec-17 01:05:33

My DS was a tiny baby, and I had to give up carrying him in the sling when he was only a few months old because my back hurt so much!

CheeriosEverywhere Wed 06-Dec-17 01:09:29

Italian it may not be for you, but carrying with a proper sling is not harmful to a persons back if they have no issues. Actually it is great exercise and will strengthen your back if you do it properly.

CheapSausagesAndSpam Wed 06-Dec-17 01:09:42

I'm not in the UK by the's daytime here. Anyway...I just think it looks stupid and it must be risky for the woman's back! A lot of you need to chill out'd think I'd posted about hitting toddlers...not carrying them round in slings!

The boy looks a bit silly to be frank....he's massive...tall and strong looking...speaks well...slings are for babies.

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