Bit of an awkward one.
I’m 34, been with my husband for nearly 14 years, married for nearly 5. We have 3 children, 11, 7 & 2. He’s a good husband, provides for us all, is a great dad. He’s my best friend & I do love him.....but that’s about it. To put it bluntly, we’ve had sex once in the last YEAR! I’m so desperately unsatified with our sexlife. When we do have sex, I’m lucky if it lasts 10 minutes. I’m increasingly having thoughts about other men, 1 in particular, mainly for meaningless sex, nothing more.
I really don’t know what to do. I’ve tried talking to him but obviously it’s awkward.
I feel stuck. I don’t work, his choice, will go back to work when our youngest starts school. Definitely no plans to have anymore kids. House in his his name, cars in his name, I literally have nothing. I can’t leave & wouldn’t want to do that to my children.
I’m so unhappy I don’t know what to do.
I’m not saying that sex is the be-all-&-end-all but I feel I’m living a miserable existence where my life is so incredibly boring & lacks any kind of passion & that’s not right for s person my age. It’s been like this for a long time. The only times we’ve had sex on a regular basis was when we were trying for our last to children (1st was unplanned). Our sexlife has never been that great. I’ve tried spicing it up but he just doesn’t seem bothered.
I’m miserable.
What do I do?
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