Relocating due to abusive relationship. I sometimes work for an agency and they rang up today with details of work after Christmas and I said I was actually moving, but thank you. They said "oh why are you moving THERE"
Umm, I suppose technically it does fall under the literal definition of "personal". But I don't think it is a) unbelievably outrageous or b) something you are under any pressure to give a full and complete answer to.
I can see why it feels that way, since the reason is so traumatic. But the asker didn't know that - in fact, if someone tells you they're moving, it's actually considered a bit rude not to say something along the lines of "oh really, why's that?" or "Oh, do you have family there?" or something along those lines.
I'm sorry you're going through this OP - put that person to the back of your mind and concentrate on bigger things. And maybe prepare a polite lie to use next time you're asked - "I fancied a change", "I love the area", "Moving to be nearer friends/family", just something vague and conversation-ending.
They’re making conversation. They have no way of knowing your reasons are personal. Most people would be moving for family or job/partners job, or cheaper/better housing, all things you would freely discuss with a stranger. They won’t be the last people who ask either, it’s a pretty standard question when someone relocates. If I were you I’d practice a non-personal and vague response so you’re ready when the next person asks.
Well, if you are moving from a nicer area to a less nice area, a person who had an unfortunate brain to mouth relationship might say oh why are you moving THERE and then be kicking themselves later as they realise that no-one makes a move like that because everything's peachy. They are probably cringing at the memory of saying something so insensitive. Surely you've done things like that yourself?
Hah! I totally empathise, because I have been exactly in that situation, but they did nothing wrong. When you are in the middle of such an awful, traumatic situation, you are incredibly emotionally vulnerable - I felt like I was missing several layers of skin. 15 years on from my flaying, I'm able to look back and think that asking students at a evening language class to talk about why they are taking the course is not an unbelievably intrusive question, just another pointless exercise. But at the time, I was so furious I dropped out of the class, which was meant to be part of me getting my life back.
I don't think you should have told anyone where you are moving to. If moving away from Domestic Abuse you should be wary of giving any details to anyone. If you had no intention or no way of working for that company there was no need to mention a specific place. Every scrapof information given is a risk to being found