I work full time and have 2 young kids. Dp is a stay at home dad. At the moment I can never do what I want to do it seems, because of a continual stream of competing obligations. This week I have been invited out for a xmas meal and drinks on two separate nights - I can't do either because of work meetings and other obligations where I have to travel away on the train and won't get back in time / at all.
I want to spend more time doing xmas things with the kids like going to xmas markets but I'm always having to work / meet deadlines. My leisure invites and activities all seem to be when I can't get a babysitter or dp can't look after them.. I feel like I'm not in the right place at the right time, half the time!
I feel bored and frustrated? Anyone out there have their shit together and you life flows smoothly with a balance of fun and work? I'd like to hear from you!!! I'm in a grump!
"push back on work to protect your leisure time better" I think this may be the key. Perhaps I should stop trying to be the 'ideal worker'..... and slack off a bit. Easier said than done though - as I have some responsibilities for managing others...
I’m not sure what line of work you are in OP but have you ‘costed’ you time, by this I mean calculate the hours it would take you to fulfill all your work requirements. I did this recently and it was a shock to my line manager - in paid for 21houra but costing out my job description is more like 30 hours - so negotiated what needs to give.
This is my busiest time of the year work-wise, and I always end up turning down invites out, either because i am too busy or too exhausted. Our christmas always seems to be thrown together in a last min fog of panic over the last few days, I am ok getting presents in advance but our tree rarely gets put up earlier than the 23rd Dec, and I am always dashing round the shops on Christmas Eve for last min things. I know exactly what you mean OP, there never seems to be enough time to actually enjoy doing Christmassy things