Bombsite bedrooms

[km1976]

Earlier this week (and many previous hours of many previous weeks) I spent ages picking up all of the stuff from my kids floor. Clean clothes, dirty clothes, pieces of rubbish...YES RUBBISH... Just a few hours later it is back to its usual state. Quite frankly I am bored s**less of picking up their stuff and I feel very demoralized and disrespected and at the same time am bored of nagging them...I think I am going to leave them to it, put their clean, unironed clothes outside their doors for them to deal with and make them go to school in crumpled dirty uniform if they have not put it in the wash....AIBU?!!! Advice please fellow mum netters!!!

[DonkeyOaty]

How old?
5? YABU.
15? Hell yeah.

[km1976]

10 and 8.....

[Pickleypickles]

Assuming they are teenagers, no wifi no mobiles every sunday till they are done?

[Floralnomad]

Just get into a routine of making sure everything is tidy every night before bed should only take a few minutes and if they mess about doing it then 10 minutes less of something tomorrow be it Tv , games console or bed 10 minutes earlier if you have bed times .

[c3pu]

My 7 year old is able to put his dirty clothes in the laundry basket with frequent reminders so YANBU.

[Pickleypickles]

X post sorry. Can you make it a group effort then? I know my mum was always like a magoc tidying fairy and i came from school (at that age) and it was magically done. It was a big ahock when she went back to work and it didnt magically do anymore. I think kids A) dont realise how much effort something takes and B) are under spme weird illusion that mum love to clean and tidy.

[ShoesHaveSouls]

My boys are like this. I'm thoroughly ashamed - they're 15 & 13. Hate to conform to sexist stereotypes, but my little girl (9) loves a tidy room...and will spend a lot of time cleaning and tidying hers.

I've just ordered laundry baskets for their rooms and instructed them (on pain of death) to use the bin - but since I've been at this for years, I wonder if it'll make any difference. I fear it's futile - and I apologise in advance to their future wives.

[OstentatiousWanking]

Leave them to it. Mine are all 25+ and manage to keep their environment pleasant. Despite being grotty vile teens.

Pick your battles innit.

[x2boys]

My nearly 11 yr old is the same stuff all over the floor my sister's 13 yr old son is grim he picked up a plate he had left in his room for God knows how long and found it full of maggots😷

[missymayhemsmum]

I think kids at that age can get a bit overwhelmed by the whole thing. dd seems to struggle with making decisons about where things go (quite apart from being a lazy slob). Actually being able to go through the process of picking each item up and make a decision (is it clean, is it dirty, where does it belong) is quite a skill. And of course my priority is the removal of sweet wrappers and old socks, while hers is the precise alignment of the display of lego elves.
I am trying to give her 10 minutes to do a specific task -eg put her clean clothes away, or pick the things up off the floor so it can be hoovered. If she makes a good start then I praise her effort and we finish it together. We actually had a tidy room without a slanging match or slammed door., this time at least. I wouldn't expect it to stay that way, though.