Sorry - bit of a long one to get as much info in as poss.
I've been with my current DP for 6 months now. Get on great, but had our first big falling out on the weekend.
Basically he split up with previous GF about a year and a half ago but has stayed in contact with her mum, meeting up, going for dinner once/twice a month.
Initially I found it a bit odd but he's a sweet guy. Alarm bells started when he said she had text him one evening to say she was in bed and cold and needed someone to warm her up......
I expressed my unhappiness but I'm not the type to tell someone they should stop seeing someone. He needs to make that decision himself. It was left that I didn't want to hear about her.
Just before we met he had a seizure. Then a couple of months later he had another one. One weekend he went a bit cold and said he wanted a weekend to himself which is fair but was a bit sudden.
I confess the following weekend I checked his phone to see if there was more to it. Turns out the ex MIL had been over to cut his hair (not that particular weekend) but he'd told me he had gone to the local barbers. Lie number 1
It's been eating away at me a bit, but I didn't want to bring it up then. Friday night he went to bed early and left his phone in the lounge so I confess I read it again.
A few weekends ago he had told me he was going for leaving drinks for a colleague on the Friday and could I go over Saturday. Turns out he had actually made plans with her. He was then ill so bailed on both of us the whole weekend.
Then he saw her two Fridays on the trot when I was already busy. The first I was oblivious too, but the second one he had used the work colleagues excuse again, at which point I even asked if he was lying as he never socialises with colleagues normally.
We then bumped into her while we were out on Saturday. Fortuitous timing?
He didn't introduce us so I was stood awkwardly smiling at her. I got a cob on at this point. We then kept bumping into them through the day. We were in quite a big city!
A bit later on I said I wasn't stupid and was under no illusion they had been out to which he said he hadn't seen her since August time. So lied to my face about it.
A few hours later we had a calm discussion about it and I owned up to reading his phone so told him I knew he had been lying.
He said he only did it as I said I didn't want to hear about it. He wasn't mad about me reading his phone. He said we should be able to pick up each others without panicking about what we're going to find, and there really was nothing else worth noting when I looked.
AIBU to be annoyed that they are staying in touch or are my own insecurities making it seem a much bigger thing than it really is? My track record of lying men isn't great but I try so hard not to tar everyone with the same brush
Sorry for the massively long post
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BubbaFishy · 05/12/2017 09:48
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