My DS does an activity two evenings per week. I drop him off or sometimes he gets the bus. DP isn't his dad but we've been together many many years, around 10 years.
I pick DS up from the activity, and sometimes I ask DP to, for example if he's had the day off work and I've been up since v early and at work all day. DP rarely offers and huffs if I ask him but will do it if I'm v tired.
Am I being unreasonable in asking him to pick up my DS? I feel it's just part of the general give and take in a relationship, and wish he would offer sometimes, just to be nice. Maybe though it's my DS, my responsibility. What d'yall think? (Sorry so long!)
YANBU. He should help out too surely?! I don't live with my BF but if I did, I'd definitely expect him to collect my DC from clubs now and then. When you live together, you become a family. Or else what's the point?!
I couldn't be with someone like that. Is it his job? Of course not. But I'd want to be with someone who would want to so those things for my family. Much in the way my OH helps my mum out if she needs it, and he's happy to do it. It's generous.
It's not me and DS against DP, no. In some pArts of our lives we are a team, but this makes me feel we aren't. If he was his actual dad I'd be really pissed off that he never offered. His dad doesn't live nearby so that's not an option.
I think he should sometimes. My dp picks my dd up from her club training sometimes, or from a friends if it's getting late, or drops them off. I do it mainly as he's often working away, but when he's here he probably does it more.