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PamplemousseRouge Mon 04-Dec-17 13:29:59

Please can I ask for your tips on how to get motivated? I'm really struggling at the moment.

I'm job-hunting, and although I'm having a few interviews after sending in cover letters/application forms, I'm not actually getting anywhere after having the interviews.

I just want to stay in bed all day, and not do anything. I don't actually do this, but that's really what I want to do most. Perhaps part of the reason why I'm feeling like this is because of the cold weather and lack of sun now that it's winter - I'm not really sure.

I'm doing Talking Therapies at the moment (face-to-face counselling), which has really helped me to feel better within myself and has given me useful ways of helping to deal with times when I feel very down. I also have a careers coach (linked with my Talking Therapies treatment), who is helping me with job-hunting.

I go through periods of feeling really, really down about everything, which I think is fairly normal, although I find it hard to deal with.

Since starting the Talking Therapies treatment though, I've learned more ways of dealing with this (e.g. drawing up a weekly schedule, including a mix of routine, necessary and fun/enjoyable things in the schedule, doing a balance of things that give me achievement and pleasure).

I'm still finding it very, very difficult to get motivated though, and go through periods when the worst goes through my mind and I just don't want to be here anymore.

I just feel like it's such a waste of life not to enjoy what I'm doing. I also just feel really frustrated at myself that I can't seem to find a job, especially because I have so much support.

Please help. Any tips would be really appreciated.

Thanks flowers

Anymajordude Mon 04-Dec-17 13:33:08

I would advise taking vitamin D and seeing your GP about depression. You poor thing. It's hard to sparkle for job interviews when you just want to curl up.

PamplemousseRouge Mon 04-Dec-17 13:39:53

Thanks so much Any, that's a good idea smile

PamplemousseRouge Mon 04-Dec-17 14:12:26

Bumping smile

Trying2bgd Mon 04-Dec-17 14:18:58

agree with pp and maybe also take some st johns wort. Could you perhaps take up some volunteer work once a week to get you out and about and speaking to people. Also some sort of exercise? I am not a gym bunny myself but a walk or run outside might help too. Good luck. I am also job hunting so know how you feel.

MistressDeeCee Mon 04-Dec-17 14:30:06

I tend to get depressed in Winter, also very easily de-motivated especially when I feel overwhelmed.

DD gave me a pep talk and tips. On her advice I started taking 5-HTP natural mood enhancer tablets (bought on Amazon) which really helped, far more than St John's Wort actually. I also had 3 sessions of "Motivation" Hypnotherapy - I will go back for a boost if I ever feel the need.

All made me feel like a new person. Would you consider this, OP? I also agree with pp's...Vitamin D + s good multivitamin tablet + exercise. I hate gym, not really good with being around loads of people but I do weights at home, in short bursts. & have a mini trampoline. No long sessions or stressing whether or not I've done enough exercise. I do what I can. It has boosted me. You'll get there💐

PamplemousseRouge Mon 04-Dec-17 16:44:40

Thanks so much everyone smile flowers I'll definitely look into taking mood enhancer tablets and upping my exercise too smile I've got a 10k race next week that I'm meant to be training for, but I haven't done much training for it recently..!

Just found I've been rejected for a job I applied for, after an interview. They said they'd like to see me delivering my answers with more confidence and to feel less anxious. Feel a bit dejected, as it feels like I'm taking one step forward and two steps back with the whole job-hunt thing. And my family are starting to get a bit frustrated with me about it.

Please keep your tips coming if anyone has any extra tips smile

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