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To have asked her to move?

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ISpySpanish Mon 04-Dec-17 13:24:42

Our elderly neighbour has had many falls over the past 18 months to which either me or my husband have administered first aid and called the ambulance for her. She's finally relented and is selling her house to go into a home after she had a serious fall at home and was left there for 2 days until I noticed and broke her door down.

She has no family, no children and her only contact here is a friend of hers of which I met the day I broke her door down. I don't care for her much as she was quite rude and abrupt with me that day for breaking our neighbours door.

Anyway, the house is now sold and for the past 2.5 weeks this friend has been coming to our neighbours house every other day to, I assume, sort through her belongings.

The AIBU but is, she parks across our drive. She is disabled so had a special car which is long and blocks our cars in. We've put up with it for the past 2.5 weeks. She will come anytime of day, sometime on the school run, and if I don't catch her before she's gone inside it can take her anywhere for up to half an hour to move the car and I've been late on many occasion because of this. When I return from somewhere I also have to get out of the car and ask her to move again. There is no where else for us to park on our road.

Today, she parked across our drive again and I went out and said I will be picking my son up from nursery in ten mins so could she please not park there. She went ballistic at me. Said she hopes I'm disabled when I'm older and that it's weeks out of my life why can't I just put up with it.

I've come back and I'm fuming at how she spoke to me. I feel like going round and saying something to her. AIBU?

expatinscotland Mon 04-Dec-17 13:26:09

Tell her to fucking move!

RunRabbitRunRabbit Mon 04-Dec-17 13:27:31

Why is she parking across your drive not in neighbours drive?

Santasbigredbobblehat Mon 04-Dec-17 13:27:40

You’ve already said something to her, so see what happens next and take it from there. She certainly isn’t entitled to block you in.

DeStijl Mon 04-Dec-17 13:27:56

Can you park over your driveway for a bit to stop her? She sounds like an arse.

RedRobin87 Mon 04-Dec-17 13:28:15

Doesn't the neighbours house have a driveway?

Keep telling her to move, she cannot block your drive and being disabled doesn't give her the right to block you in.

Sparklingbrook Mon 04-Dec-17 13:28:57

Could you park across your own drive for the time being?

SpongeBobJudgeyPants Mon 04-Dec-17 13:28:59

That's sounds really frustrating, but you know she isn't going to suddenly turn into a reasonable person when you point out her rudeness, she'll likely go off on one again, and you will feel doubly cross. Does she have anywhere else to park? Not clear on this. Koudos to you for helping your neighbour so much though flowers

BastardGoDarkly Mon 04-Dec-17 13:29:17

Does neighbour not have a drive?

Sayyouwill Mon 04-Dec-17 13:29:41

Not in the slightest. She was a cow.
I would just tell her that being disabled does not mean that she can block your driveway for the craic.

GiGiraffe Mon 04-Dec-17 13:30:43

Can you register your dropped curb with the council? If you can, you get a phone number and you can call with the car details and your reference number and they send someone on a moped to ticket the car. I have started doing this after giving people fair warning to not do it - there’s not an excuse for her to inconvenience others.

ISpySpanish Mon 04-Dec-17 13:31:38

Our neighbour doesn't have a drive, only a garage which isn't by the house and when I asked this woman to park by the neighbours garage she said she can't because the neighbours car is still there and she needs a slope to be able to get her wheelchair off

blueskyinmarch Mon 04-Dec-17 13:37:41

It sounds like she genuinely needs space to get her chair out and to transfer into it. However she has gone about it all the wrong way riling you in the process. Is there any way you can find a solution by moving the neighbours car elsewhere so she can use that space?

RunRabbitRunRabbit Mon 04-Dec-17 13:39:25

In the circumstances, I'd let her have the ramp access and park my own car by the neighbours garage for a few days. This assumes that the clearance won't take long. Her attitude might make me not offer such a deal, however, feeling charitable maybe she's feeling absolutely awful emotionally having to clear out her mates house and maybe finding it horribly physically difficult herself too. So I'd be kinder than I would normally be with a CF.

Tinselistacky Mon 04-Dec-17 13:42:09

You need the obligatory penguin bollard often mentioned on mn.
And shove it up her arse!!

ivykaty44 Mon 04-Dec-17 13:43:10

tbh is there anywhere else for her to park?
If there is then can you show her the spot and will she be able to still get to the house?

We do seem to be a car reliant society, there are just so many cars everywhere that clog up streets. Being disabled must be a right pain for many - even if some are grumpy

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Mon 04-Dec-17 13:47:11

I agree that you should park across your drive for the time being. It’s not for ever.

Trafficjammadness Mon 04-Dec-17 13:49:50

regardless of genuine need there are ways to go about things, screaming and being rude isn't one of them, I loath this entitled attitude from anyone, knock and explain why you need to do something and ask if it is ok, don't just block people in and refuse to move, making them late.

Frankly I wouldn't be very inclined to help her out.

Gemini69 Mon 04-Dec-17 13:54:21

Park across your own drive.. if just to ensure your not blocked in flowers

CocaColaTruck Mon 04-Dec-17 13:55:07

Next time she blocks you in contact the police. They will explain it's illegal.

LoislovesStewie Mon 04-Dec-17 13:57:18

She is obstructing your drive which is an offence
Regulation 103 of the Road Vehicles (Construction and Use) Regulations 1986 creates the offence of unnecessary obstruction.

103. No person in charge of a motor vehicle or trailer shall cause or permit the vehicle to stand on a road so as to cause any unnecessary obstruction.

I had a visitor to a neighbour do this to me; the problem was that my oldest was ill ,complications of type 1 diabetes, and an urgent trip to hospital was called for. He just couldn't understand why he had to move there and then. Total twat ! Show her the legislation.

PricillaQueenOfTheDesert Mon 04-Dec-17 14:03:58

Oh she’s one of those old people that thinks the world revolves around her and everyone else is being rude.

Any chance of you having a couple of friends on standby with cars to block her car in next time she parks across your drive? (You may need a third friend to drive you all to school to pick the kids up) then take your sweet time in coming back.

Failing that, smearing butter all over her windscreen will give her the message!

ArcheryAnnie Mon 04-Dec-17 14:06:01


It's bad enough that she was arsey about you saving your neighbour's life. If she's now having a go at you for wanting to use your own driveway she can fuck off.

If she's come and asked you if she could use your driveway, I'd be the first here to suggest to you that you let her, and park somewhere else for the duration, but she didn't.

Having a disability doesn't give you a free pass for behaving like a dick. (And she's behaving like a dick.)

Mummyoflittledragon Mon 04-Dec-17 14:09:12

I think I’d park my car on the road until she’s finished sorting. She is a wheelchair user. Her attitude stinks, I know and it’s illegal but it’s for a short time only and it sounds as though she is parking there for access. Being disabled is really shit.

RestingGrinchFace Mon 04-Dec-17 14:09:37

Caitlin just call a traffic warden/towing company next time? Being disabled isn't an excuse for being a dick.

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