Asking for a charity donation?

[hibbledobble]

Wondering if I have unwittingly made a faux pas.

I gave away a couple of free items on a local Facebook group. Good used condition, and would cost in excess of £50 new.

I asked if the collector would be willing to make an optional small donation, which I would give a to a charity close to my heart. This was in a message prior to collection. No reply, and then no thank you on collection. Not making a donation is fine, but not saying thank you seems off.

Overall, I feel a bit miffed. Aibu?

[thewisestoldelf]

See this is a difficult one. You've offered to give something away and then you've attached a possible condition to it.

Was it a charity you had chosen? Again the person you're giving the item to may not support that charity.

Personally if I went to pick up an item and someone asked me for a donation I'd say no as well - especially if the request was foist upon me by someone i didn't know

[thewisestoldelf]

Also YANBU about saying thank you because it's basic manners

[hibbledobble]

Yes, it was a charity of my choosing. Not one that would be controversial in any way though.

Fair point, though she had the option of not collecting if my request offended her.

[UnicornRainbowColours]

You can’t give things always for free then ask for a donation? She doesn’t know your not gonna keep the money? How does she know your gonna give it to a charity. So I’m afraid you were the unreasonable one...

[AJPTaylor]

I suppose some one could be a bit put out. Offering something for free but then suggesting charity donation. Thats not the deal. I now tend to put stuff on ebay for a quid witb 100 percent going to Shelter. Gave up with free cycle. Or ive done stuff at work, eg taken a stack of paperbacks in and suggested a 50p donation in the company charity tin . I think its best to be clear, you sent a mixed message. Thank you is always free though!

[ThisLittleKitty]

You should have just sold it then given the money to charity. She could have said thanks though.

[hibbledobble]

Ok, I realise I have made an error here.

I'll sell for a nominal amount next time and give to charity.