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To just want to cut everyone off

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Rubyritz Sun 03-Dec-17 10:28:00

I'm feeling really annoyed. I always get shit on by friends and family.

One of my close friends who I've known for 8 years has decided to totally drop me now that she has better things. She has recently split up with her bf, sold her house and is now living the single life.
The past 2 years we've seen each other once a week. It got less and less and the past year dramamtically declined.
Now she is back mates with her old
Friend who she hasn't spoken to for a few years as they fell out and her other mate is back working locally. I haven't seen her in 3 months and text her twice to see when she's free and I've not heard anything sad

I was there when she moved house, I was there when she was being mistreated, I was there for every birthday the past few years and now I'm useless. hmm

Also annoyed my family haven't told me that my Nan is critically ill in hospital. I found out through someone else. They didnt bother sending me or DS a birthday card, haven't came and visited my new house and don't ever text me or call.

But I haven't done anything to upset them they have always been this way and it seems since me and my dad have cut contact they don't seem to agree and have isolated me more. However, he was an abusive violent man which they are well aware of.

I have always felt like the black sheep. In 5 years they visited once when DS was born. Yet I still send cards, I still pop round to there house, I will drop an odd message. But If I did none of that I would never see or hear off them yet they call me stranger if I haven't popped round in 4 months??

I don't get people sad

MsGameandWatching Sun 03-Dec-17 10:31:23

That all sounds very hurtful. Sometimes all this stuff comes along at once with your interpersonal relationships and it can be good to step back. I have done it and felt better for it. I think sometimes it’s useful to step back from everyone and their perceptions of you and be the person you are, rather than the one they all think you are. It’s made me stronger and broken old patterns of behaviour and reactions. I don’t know if it’s forever but I certainly feel more free and calm than I have for a very long time.

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