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OH helping everyone but me.

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Zillcat Sat 02-Dec-17 15:09:44

So background is, I am currently 28 weeks pregnant with twins. Still in work Monday - Friday, mat leave starts in two weeks time.

Last weekend we had to sort the house out because we were having a new bathroom fitted. I stayed with family to avoid not having a toilet overnight and came back Thursday when all was done. OH agreed that we would spend today sorting out the house and cleaning up to get organised as there is a chance that babies may appear early.
The house is full of dust...

This morning he gets up early and leaves.
I ring him to be told that he had forgot and had agreed to help his mum do something - will be out all day. Now he's rang to say he's dropping his dad somewhere and then he will be going out tonight for a friends house warming and is annoyed that I don't want to go... despite me spending the entire day cleaning the house and now being exhausted.

AIBU to have a go at him considering we haven't seen each other all week. So angry and stupid pregnancy hormones means I just cry when I try and argue!!

TheWernethWife Sat 02-Dec-17 15:15:46

Go back and stay with family until your house is fit to live in comfortably. Tell him to pull his bloody finger out and sort it. You don't have to cry and get upset, just walk away and leave him in no doubt that you come first.

RiseToday Sat 02-Dec-17 15:20:25

Bloody hell he needs to step up to the plate NOW. What's he going to be like when you have twin babies to contend with? Flitting off at every opportunity?

It should be blindingly obvious, but clearly isn't to him. You are 28 weeks pregnant with twins and still work full time FFS. You should be his absolute priority right now, no ifs or buts.

If he can't see that then he is going to have an almighty shock when your babies arrive.

ClareB83 Sat 02-Dec-17 15:33:44

YANBU. I'm just 14 weeks with twins and if OH left me like that I'd be furious. I definitely wouldn't have cleaned a bloody thing and I'd be back at my Mum's. If you are too hormonal to be angry without crying maybe one of your parents might manage some fury. Mine would hit the roof.

MrSnrubYesThatsIt Sat 02-Dec-17 15:40:29

Agree with above.
Leave and stay with family for an indefinite period and just tell him he's being a knob.
That might learn him.

Nanny0gg Sat 02-Dec-17 15:42:12

Are the twins your first?

He's got a hell of a shock coming...

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