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Notmycuntingfault Sat 02-Dec-17 14:25:25

NC for this for obvious reasons.

I live in a rambling, big disjointed house. Think corridors, connecting halls etc. It's odd but I love it.
My nephew dropped by yesterday with his gf and toddler. I haven't seen him for a few years, distance, life and money etc.
Now, I had no warning they were coming and he painted it as they were just in the area. So, I made lunch we chatted and laughed ''twas nice.
Time got on and I said "Stay and go home tomorrow" they accepted and I sorted a big room out for the three of them.
All good so far.
I get up this morning and start making a big breakfast for everyone. They join me and we all eat together.
Afterwards they go off to pack up and I clear the breakfast things and take to kitchen (four big rooms away, this is important) when I finish I go back to main house and see or hear no one. Bit pissed that they left without saying goodbye or thank you but blame wankiness of youth.
I get on with my day and walk to the village and see their car is still in drive, I ring them and am told they went for a walk before leaving.
So I carry on and after chatting at shop etc amble back home.
When I get back I am faced with full on anger from nephew and gf as they had left son with me!
They had apparently shouted before they went for walk. So I had abandoned their son.
He was in their room alone for around an hour.
AIBU for not feeling guilt?
They should've checked it was ok.
He was fine.

FizzyGreenWater Sat 02-Dec-17 14:27:58

Full on ager should be coming right back at them.

They were utterly irresponsible. Didn't check you knew - or even ASK you - to look after their son for an hour or more?

Tell them to fuck off with their anger and not bother coming back again until they learn some responsibility and a few manners to go with it.

TieGrr Sat 02-Dec-17 14:28:51

YANBU. If you had to ring them to find out where they went you clearly didn't hear them shout beforehand.

Islacornx Sat 02-Dec-17 14:28:53

Wow, YANBU. How cheeky, surely you would come and ask someone directly to their face if you wanted them to look after your child. Not just shout as you're walking out the door and hope they hear confused

Frederickvonhefferneffer Sat 02-Dec-17 14:29:00


insancerre Sat 02-Dec-17 14:29:33

They should have checked it was OK with you

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sat 02-Dec-17 14:30:11

They've got a bloody cheek.

SlartyFarkBarstard Sat 02-Dec-17 14:33:20

😂😂😂 are they fucking loopy! They dumped there kid without checking with you? Tell them to fuck off and don’t come back.

Neverender Sat 02-Dec-17 14:34:44

YANBU that's awful

MrMeSeeks Sat 02-Dec-17 14:37:24

Wtf were they thinking?i'd be telling them to leave and not come back.

Oliversmumsarmy Sat 02-Dec-17 14:40:31

So when you rang them to see where they were they didn't think that if they had told you where they were you wouldn't be ringing.
Or in other words they told you that they were going for a walk and to look after ds then you ring and ask them where they are.
I cant understand why they wouldn't have asked you to look after their ds face to face

SingingSeuss Sat 02-Dec-17 14:41:26

So they just shouted and ran without checking you said yes/ making sure kid was ok with you/ making sure you knew where the child was? They need to take a look at their parenting. Not acceptable at all

aaaaargghhhhelpme Sat 02-Dec-17 14:42:15

I think your new username is utterly correct

Tell them to fuck off to the far side of fuck and don't come back.

I can't honestly believe anyone would be so reckless with their child.

Louiselouie0890 Sat 02-Dec-17 14:43:52

This is why I always make sure people know I'm leaving and there now in charge. OH thinks I'm insane but I can then switch off knowing they're ok. They sound insane, irresponsible and rude.

AnnetteCurtains Sat 02-Dec-17 14:44:04

YANBU now show us a photo of your house , it sounds gorgeous

Lizzie48 Sat 02-Dec-17 14:50:30

How entitled are they, assuming that you would be ok with them just leaving their DS with you, what cheek!! And since you clearly didn't know where they'd gone, it must have been obvious that you hadn't heard what they'd said. shock

nocoolnamesleft Sat 02-Dec-17 14:57:11

They didn't leave the child with you. They left the child in the house and went out. They did not check that you even knew this, let alone that you were alright with it. And when you phoned to check what was going on, they were too thick to even think "Hang on, if she knew our child was here, she wouldn't be asking whether we've left, oh god, she didn't hear us", but carried on with their nice little walk. And then had the unmitigated gall to blame you.

Idiots. Thank goodness the child is okay. Well, this time anyway. Dread to think where they'll abandon them the next time...

WinnieFosterTether Sat 02-Dec-17 14:58:41

They're completely irresponsible but I'm with Annette I want to see your house grin

SauvignonBlanche Sat 02-Dec-17 15:00:57

How irresponsible of them!

Chaosofcalm Sat 02-Dec-17 15:00:58

How old is the child?

OurMiracle1106 Sat 02-Dec-17 15:01:27

Can I please just show up and have a nice little break. I don’t come with children in two and I will be appreciative??? Pretty please you’re hosting sounds fantastic and your house sounds amazing grin

They were rude and irresponsible and now blaming you. They shouldn’t have just turned up and even more so then expected you to look after their child for free without having had a chat about it first.

Mummyoflittledragon Sat 02-Dec-17 15:01:39

What nocool said. And I would just like to repeat. Idiots.

MyKingdomForBrie Sat 02-Dec-17 15:06:13

How can they possibly be angry with you when you didn’t know he was there??

YouCantArgueWithStupid Sat 02-Dec-17 15:06:21

Can we please come too! We've got a 2 YO DD and would do the washing up and wouldn't bugger off out grin

missiondecision Sat 02-Dec-17 15:12:36

Please give the child’s age for context.
Not that their wanky behaviour is acceptable.
Twattish behavior to just tell you their child is being left with you.

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