I know it's not very festive, but my husbands family are just 🙄!
The adults are rude and the 3 kids are able to just run around and do What they want, and they break things have no respect for anything, we spend lots of money on presents for them and they don't even say thank you, it's so stressful and definitely not enjoyable, this year I'm working from Xmas day till New Year's Day but I have the 23/24 off, I'm a nurse also 6 months pregnant and to be fair I was looking forward to getting out of seeing them, and maybe having a nap ! now they have sort of invited themselves for the days I'm off, they live in a different town to us, I'm just not doing it!! My husband doesn't even want it! So no no no!!!!
Feel bad for my mil, but she can't enjoy any of it either, and now it's all getting passed on to us to have everyone! No thanks!! What do we say? Xx
They've got mil involved and said they will all come to ours (we never see them) so why would they think we would want them, if I have any energy I planned to see friends and relax with my lovely hubby, for the 2 days I have off ! I'm annoyed that we're put in this situation and will look like we're being mean, but they are horrible to us when there here and I have noo fake smiles this year left in me x
That's so bloody cheeky! They can't invite themselves to yours. Agree with "we've already got plans". If you've left it too late to say that, how about "those are the only days I've got off this year and DH and I decided we just want it to be the two of us." If they persist then you'll have to say "it's incredibly rude to invite yourselves when we've said we don't want you to come and want to be by ourselves. That's a final answer from both of us. Have a lovely Christmas.".
Jesus, I don't get these people who invite themselves. Just the fact that you're working (and haven't invited them), pregnant (and haven't invited them) and oh yes, haven't bloody invited them should be enough. But, these are your husband's family-HE steps up and tells them, no, it's just not possible, see you (somewhere else) in the new year when hell freezes over
Honestly, just say ‘No, we are not hosting Christmas, we will see you on x date at x place’. (Whatever suits YOU). There’s no need to beat about the bush trying not to offend people who are rude & obnoxious.
Do it TODAY so you can stop thinking about it.
...and STOP buying their ungrateful kids expensive presents, it’s not appreciated.
Thanks you! Yes I've asked him to call them today , I did suggest that maybe at a push we cud meet them out for lunch somewhere as then easy to escape, but I really don't want that either, I would love a big lovely family Christmas! (Just with someone else's family !)!! Xxx
Tell them. Put yourselves first. You have two days off. It’s very rude and presumptuous of them to invite themselves. And let them bitch and moan that you’re acting all bah humbug. You’re too tired. You are pregnant and only have 2 days off over Christmas. Why on Earth didn’t they invite you?
It's hard having in-laws you don't like. At least your DH is on board with you about it, though. (I struggle with my MIL, and my DH doesn't get it at all.) Your DH needs to tell them that it's not happening, you want a quiet Christmas this year in view of your pregnancy. Nothing more than that, it's better not to over share, I think.