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To be a control freak about the Christmas tree?

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malificent7 Sat 02-Dec-17 09:41:20

The kids decorated it which is lovely but i got twitchy about correct spacing of baubles. Aibu?

Spadequeen Sat 02-Dec-17 09:42:14

Nope not all in my opinion but then dh says I’m a freak about the Christmas tree!!!

AdalindSchade Sat 02-Dec-17 09:43:05

Just tweak it when they are in bed smile

LiquoricePickle Sat 02-Dec-17 09:43:40

I'm the same.

Whizziwig Sat 02-Dec-17 09:44:12

We now have two trees in different rooms - one decorated by the children and one by me. That way they can be as creative as they want and I can have a tree that looks right!

BelfortGabbz Sat 02-Dec-17 09:45:33

You let them TOUCH the tree?!!!

Heratnumber7 Sat 02-Dec-17 09:49:25

I always used to rearrange when the kids went to bed. Still do now they are 19 and 21.

HubrisComicGhoul Sat 02-Dec-17 09:50:17

Half the people I know are like this, some of them won't allow their DC to decorate the tree, which I think is sad. So give yourself credit for allowing them to help.

I'm the other way, i let the kids throw decorations at the tree in a haphazard fashion and feel grateful I don't have to do it myself anymore grin

Pyjamaface Sat 02-Dec-17 09:51:00

I do it properly adjust the baubles when DS is in bed. It makes me twitchy if it's not right

PrincessoftheSea Sat 02-Dec-17 09:53:19

YABU my perfect tree is a tree decorated by my children. Who cares about spacing of baubles?

araiwa Sat 02-Dec-17 09:56:58

Well done for sucking all the joy out of a joyful occasion

OhBeggerItsMorning Sat 02-Dec-17 10:03:02

Our boys 'help' decorate the tree. They get some input into which shape/style baubles etc. get used (but I 'point them in the right direction')
There is also a lot of 'pointing in the right direction' when 'we' put the tinsel on, put the baubles on, put other decorations around the window etc. Even decorating the 3' tree in their bedroom gets a lot of direction from me, but I am not as anal with that one, it can be more to their liking. But when a bauble gets knocked off and I replace it I reserve the right to neaten the decorations up around it rearrange the whole tree
I am surprised they still claim to enjoy putting the decorations up with all my meddling.
Who will be first to mention Monica's tree in Friends when it has the friend's decs on one side and she spins it around to reveal her perfect side? (I couldn't do that, knowing the other side was still there!)

LloydColeandtheCoconuts Sat 02-Dec-17 10:03:32

Oh god! My mother was ridiculously obsessive about the tree. She really tried to sap (no pun intended as we had a fake tree growing up grin) any fun out of it. Bauble spacing and we weren’t allowed to touch the tinsel. However I didn’t mind too much as I was always so excited about putting the tree up and I guess it’s one of our family traditions that was can look back with fondness.

foxyloxy78 Sat 02-Dec-17 10:05:41

Yep. Just do when they are asleep.

KeepServingTheDrinks Sat 02-Dec-17 10:08:15

You're not BU because lots of people feel the same way that you do.

Personally your way isn't my way. I think it's all about the kids at Christmas, so DD has always been the pointer outer of where to hang things on the tree and it looks the way she wants it to look.

But then most of you would hate the clutter and mess in my house that's there all day every day.

thecatsthecats Sat 02-Dec-17 10:08:26

Just got our first real tree, and I feel weird talking about how happy it made me for my fiance to be as picky and careful with decorating as I was. Usually he sits back and lets it happen. This year I left the room, I come back and he's telling me he swapped a couple to improve the balance. Brings a tear to my eye.

Aweektilltheseason Sat 02-Dec-17 10:12:24

My dc have a tree each which they do what they want too and they help with the downstairs tree. I never thought I would be precious over the main tree. But I am, a little bit

NovemberWitch Sat 02-Dec-17 10:24:56

Depends how your children feel about it. If they are having fun and don’t notice or care about your improvements, fine.
I do remember one Christmas, I was yelled at for making a mess unwrapping presents. So the next Christmas, I unwrapped each present silently and carefully, folded the paper, put the gift on top with the label and said ‘ What a nice present’
Hold a grudge? Me?

Doubletrouble42 Sat 02-Dec-17 10:26:24

Yep another who lets the kids enjoy decorating the tree then does it better when they are in bed. Noones ever noticed.

TheMadGardener Sat 02-Dec-17 10:27:42

NO ONE controls the decoration of our Christmas tree except me. Tree decoration control freakery completely normal!!!

Doubletrouble42 Sat 02-Dec-17 10:28:36

And as for sucking the joy out; Some of us get joy from an attractive tree!

SweetEnough Sat 02-Dec-17 10:46:31

Yabu. I love that my dd7 decorates the tree, I fondly joke that it looks like an elf has vomited over it.

My mum would always redo it after we'd gone to bed and I was disappointed that it wasn't good enough. So I will not touch it, can't wait to see what my 2 year old does this year!

Glumglowworm Sat 02-Dec-17 10:48:36

YABU, your kids happiness is more important than spacing of some baubles on a tree!

I didn’t find out til I was an adult that my mum used to reaarange the baubles when we were in bed. She never moved any special ones or favourite ones though

AllPizzasGreatAndSmall Sat 02-Dec-17 10:59:02

I wouldn't let small children choose what colour I paint my walls or let them loose with a roller - same rules apply to christmas decorating.

topcat2014 Sat 02-Dec-17 11:04:12

The whole point of having child(ren) is letting them do stuff so you don't have to?

My DD will be throwing decs on the tree however she likes, and that will be that.

The only bit I do is dealing with plugging in the bastard lights and getting them to work

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