My DH has a lot of interests. In the past they have taken up every weekend from april to september but has reigned it in. However he still does something Tuesday evenings, Sunday mornings and about five hours on saturday or sunday, sometimes both.
He was supposed to fill in his availability over the next few weeks. We go away on 17th and he either forgot to put not available for 16 (we are staying overnight elsewhere before we go) or the system messed up, but he got put down for 16th. I have just seen an email from him to the organiser to say he can’t make 16th due to ‘evils from the Mrs’.
I think I’m pretty fucking tolerant. AIBU to be pissed off?
You are DEFINITELY not unreasonable, he's really cheeky and (IMO) sneaky and sly. That's not a nice thing that he did. My Ex used to do something similar, blaming me for not wanting him to go out, when in reality I knew nothing about it, didn't have an opinion on him going out, but he just didn't want to take up the invite from his friends. It was easy, blaming me and going for the sympathy vote too.
If you're planning to have children you'd better inform him now that his hobby needs to stop completely for several years. No way I'd be left hiking the baby while he disappears all weekend. It's ridiculous! You must almost never see him!