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AIBU?

to be jealous of people who have family that give a shit about them.

12 replies

starshaker · 01/12/2017 22:56

I know IABU. I know plenty people have issues with family but its still shit.
I should know by now that i shouldn't expect anything. I dont matter so I need to just accept it and move on.

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dudsville · 01/12/2017 23:02

I have this sometimes. You may not matter to them, but you can matter to yourself and others. You can choose to narrow your focus to include their opinions or behaviours (or lack of) less.

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starshaker · 01/12/2017 23:04

I have 3 kids. I matter to them but not to anybody else. Its a lonely existence

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NoKnownFather · 01/12/2017 23:24

Starshaker I agree it's not fair nor is it nice, but unfortunately some people are just plain selfish and don't care about others so we have no option but to 'accept it and move on'. This is what I've had to learn to do otherwise I would go crazy.

Worst part is I don't know the cause behind it all, but will probably die wondering!

Not easy sometimes, specially at this time of year.

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MiraiDevant · 01/12/2017 23:35

If you have 3 kids and you matter to them and more importantly they matter to you then that is wonderful.

I am sorry that you weren't loved how you should have been. That is not right or fair.

I am lucky, my Mum and Dad loved me when I was a child. I had an extended family who loved me too. I know how lucky I was.

You are here now though and have a place in the world. You can give that care and love to your children. And they will love you forever,

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starshaker · 01/12/2017 23:37

It sounds stupid and pathetic but its the latest in a long list of let downs.

In July I asked my mum to babysit so I could have a christmas night out with a group I go to. She said yes so I booked a room at the same place we were having to meal so that I could have a glass of wine or something. I never go out. My mum never babysits so its not like I ask often.
I reminded her a few times and she said she would put in for the day off. Messaged her tonight and she forgot and is working. She cant change it. So ive lost £110 and the chance to get out with friends for a night.

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Littlelambpeep · 01/12/2017 23:38

I am married so I have dh and the Dc. My mother couldn't give a shit about me. I often work six days a week in the opposite direction to her (so 50 min drive from work after collecting DC) but if I don't visit twice a week she throws a strop. Yet never rings me or contacts me. My father says I am a disgrace that they licked the ground for me. Bullshit.

Look after my own DC

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Littlelambpeep · 01/12/2017 23:41

That is totally shit op. My mother does that too. So I never ask her to babysit. Then she cries because 'she wasn't well' but is well fit for mini breaks away at least six times a year. Its totally fine with me.

So so sorry you missed your night out !!!?

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poppy54321 · 01/12/2017 23:49

It doesn’t sound stupid or pathetic, and I can understand why you feel jealous. It’s particularly hard when this selfish behaviour is from your mother.

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Iforgotmynameimdrunk · 01/12/2017 23:50

im with you

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Protectingmydaughterfromfilth · 02/12/2017 00:16

Same here OP. Just me and my little girl. No friends either x

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starshaker · 02/12/2017 13:33

Same here, dont really have anybody around.

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starshaker · 02/12/2017 17:23

I i was any of my other siblings it would have been remembered. She would have booked extra time off too so she could spend time with them but because its me it just didnt matter. Story of my life really. I really should know better by now.

I know im feeling sorry for myself but I never get a night out. I dont have anybody to go out with.