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b123p Fri 01-Dec-17 10:39:37

If you were physically and mentally unwell and didn't feel capable of working at all (but had to), which of these two scenarios would you pick?

Current job, which isn't making me terribly happy (may be partially due to illness) but have the support of excellent managers who understand what I am going through and are very flexible with hours/days when you are unwell.

New job, less days a week, higher pressure/responsibility, better working environment, more challenging work (has positives and negatives), better benefits, better long term prospects, but no flexibility/understanding of illness until I've had the chance to prove myself, presumably. Male, very senior manager.

So as not to drip feed, have been signed off with this issue at some points, at current time don't know when I'll be better (being prescribed more pills and waiting for results of biopsy), and it is having a severe impact on my day-to-day living. New pills may help, but they may not, and have to decide before I will know. Doctors are stumped, and have been unwell for the best part of a year.

Any thoughts?

imokit Fri 01-Dec-17 10:41:55

Current job, less stress and more support makes up for the longer hours.

Coffeemachine Fri 01-Dec-17 10:45:01

similar position for me. It's hart, isn't it?

current job. You can revaluate when you feel better but a good and understanding employer is priceless in these situations.

LadyB49 Fri 01-Dec-17 10:45:29

At the mome better the devil you know. I'd stay where I was.

Glumglowworm Fri 01-Dec-17 10:49:14

The first one

Understanding managers and flexibility are important

Added pressure in the potential new role, plus the stress of starting a new role in itself, plus the lack of understanding and flexibility would all be red flags for me (I have long term anxiety and depression, have had a couple of periods of long term sick but work full time)

LadyB49 Fri 01-Dec-17 10:51:28

** moment

Caroelle Fri 01-Dec-17 10:56:14

Current job, especially if you have been there for 2 years so you have some degree of protection when it comes to employment rights. You won’t have that in the new job, so if you don’t achieve what they want you could be out of there very quickly. As someone who has a long history of depression, I would also say don’t underestimate the stress of starting a new job. How would this impact on your health?

DawnHaze Fri 01-Dec-17 10:57:03

I was in the the exact same scenario a year ago. I chose to move jobs thinking a new environment would be best for me. I regretted the decision immediately. I had underestimated the value of a familiar environment and a supportive team.
Only you can say what is right for you at this time. But you may be better off dealing with your current issues where you are and save any big changes until you are feeling better.
Is there any chance of meeting with your current managers to talk through your concerns about your health and maybe come to a compromise that would suit you both?

Mac12345 Fri 01-Dec-17 10:58:07

I'd say current job until things are more settled and you have a clear idea what's happening health wise. I think flexibility and a supportive management are important.

May50 Fri 01-Dec-17 10:59:50

Current job

MrsExpo Fri 01-Dec-17 11:48:41

I'd stay put until you have one answers to your health questions and some idea of next steps in treatment etc. If your current set up are being helpful and supportive, you'll only be under a lot of pressure to prove yourself in a new environment which might be of detriment to your health. The you have some answers and feel better you'll be in a stronger position to make a move.

TheFickleFingerOfFate Fri 01-Dec-17 11:50:55

Current job. The understanding of the workplace is worth more than possibly being fired during your settling in time due to illness.

Ttbb Fri 01-Dec-17 11:54:34

Current job.

VladmirsPoutine Fri 01-Dec-17 11:54:52

Stay put. There will always be opportunities in the future and the most important thing is your health. The new job whilst sounds great on paper might make things severely worse for you.

At the minute you have understanding managers and the role seems to suit. I'd usually encourage anyone to make a move to a job with better prospects and more responsibility but that might just be the unravelling of you. But in this instance, no. Stay put and focus on your health. Everything else can come after.

IceFall Fri 01-Dec-17 11:57:58

The first one.

So much easier when you can have a flexible and supportive environment where you have already 'proved 'yourself.

TalkinBoutWhat Fri 01-Dec-17 13:05:40

Stay, at least until you have a better idea of what is wrong, potential treatments and outcomes.

A supportive employer is worth their weight in gold.

TheVanguardSix Fri 01-Dec-17 13:08:04

You can't put a price on support.
Current job. All day long.

mummyhaschangedhername Fri 01-Dec-17 13:21:42

Current job

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