Can I be a good friend to someone but keep my distance? Is that a good friend?
I have a close friend of 25 years that I care about very much. She's a good kind hearted woman but has made terrible decisions throughout her life. These include terrible partners, quitting jobs impulsively, running up huge debts and other crazy impulsive choices. We both had dysfunctional childhoods and I know why she is this way and accept her as she is and love her very much.
She emailed me yesterday asking for advice which is a regular occurrence. She sees me as the one who got their shit together and I have always been happy to help and encourage her. But she never listens or acts on my advice instead she tells me the reasons it won't work for her. That's fine, but I do find it annoying when I spend time researching options and she then dismisses them as impossible without consideration.
Can be a good friend whilst not giving advice even when she directly asks? If so how do I deflect her request for advice without being offensive?
AIBU?
To tell friend I can't help anymore
badfrodo · 29/11/2017 15:07
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