For anyone who remembers a thread I wrote a while back about a LB(4) and my DD(3) playing and collecting ladybirds and climbing loft ladders - and even for those who dont, I have an update.
As I said in my last thread on a later posting I would try and encourage the friendship between DD and LB and I would do my best not to judge his behaviour so quickly.
Keeping to my word I have taken him to the park on my own with DD and we had quite a good time. He went on the equipment was polite - had an emergency wee (made me chuckle he was so well trained).
Then yesterday I asked his mum if they would like to go for a walk in the afternoon to some local parks that they might not have found yet. As a treat I took a blanket and ball and bought the children some juice, sweets and crisps. And the myum and I same juice. I took my baby DS and had a feed for him prepared and thoght it would make a nice couple of hours out......
From the minute he left the house LB was complaining, too cold, my DD was walking too far ahead, his mum and I were talking too much, he wanted his sunglasses on, they would'nt stay on etc etc etc... His mum seemed quite embarassed by his behaviour and DD was fed up of being held back and kept shouting for LB to hurry up.
We got to one park and I suggested we played there for a while before going on to the next park and having our picnic. From then on LB kept saying he had enough and hated this park and could he see what crisps I got him. He told DD she had to get off the swings and told her 'one more go on the slide' . DD knew we had goodies as she had bought them with me, but was much more interested in playing and not happy to leave, but he would'nt stop going on so we left.
When we got to the next park he wanted to sit basically as soon as possible so he could have the food etc, and his mum had to tell him as they had bought nothing they would sit where me and D chose. Again to placate him, once we were away from the path and in quite a central quiet spot we put the balnket out and the chldren had thier juice and sweets and crisps etc.
DD then got the ball out and ran backwards and forwards kicking it and calling to LB. He said 'no thank you I am rather tired now' and promptly lay down on the blanket under his jacket. I was feeding DS so all I could do was talk to DD and applaud her high kicks etc. And LB's mum got up to play with her after a while. LB looked up and asked them to play further away as he wanted to sleep. I told him you dont come out to sleep that is what bed is for.
Then he seemed to realised his DM was ignoring him and playing with my DD instead so he said he wanted to go home. I told him there was another sing and slide park at the end of the field, but he just said 'no thanks I want to go home' So we packed everything back in the pram, including my DS who was enjoying the fresh air and sunchshine and we used a short cut out of the park.
As we walked home he was back to normal as I know him after pre-school, running along with DD telling her to keep up etc. All signs of tiredness gone. Then he said to me that DD wanted to go to his house and play and I said she had to go home (we only live 30 seconds accross the street) and he told me, when my DD wants to do something I should let her .
We parted that I would call for them if we went to a park a the end of our road later in the week (we went today and we did not call).
Now I really like his mum and I would like to get to know her more, However, as much as I try to like this LB I feel I am always biting my tongue at how he speaks to me and DD (also his DM - but that's not my concern).
Yesterday I felt I had been completely used by him as nothing more than a meal ticket and what annoyed me even more was that DD had been let down by him as he refused to play with her, which she was looking forward to.
His mum and I are going in to town in a few days while DD and LB are at pre-school so at least we can have a chat in peace as he always interupts us as apparently he doesnt like his mum talking to anyone but him.
So....after all this would try and make another playdate or just let the DC's play when they are at pre-school and use this time to chat amd meet with his DM??
I have realy tried not to jusge here. And I do have a baby DS so I will have a LB myslef one day - and if it is a boy thing I will find out for myself.
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LowFatMilkshake · 18/04/2007 20:53
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