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I made a present for my GN when she was Newborn, it's GNs favourite and I feel really pleased (Probably UR)

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ProbablyShouldntShouldI · 25/11/2017 08:53

I lost my daughter in 2014, she was very ill but her death wasn't expected.

I decided to find something to occupy me to distract me from her death as I felt she'd not want me to wallow. I took up knitting and crocheting as I'd done it in the past and found it therapeutic, plus there are enough free patterns on the internet that I never get bored. I stopped doing it when my daughters illness got very bad in 2008.

12 weeks after my daughter died, my niece who I am fairly close to as she's the same age as my daughter and they were good friends as well as cousins, told me she was pregnant.

I was so happy for her that I decided to make a very special patchwork blanket. I did neutral colours as DN didn't find out what she was having. I decided to use an old jumper of my daughters to incorporate into the blanket as a way to show my daughter was looking out for this baby.

Well my Great Niece is now 2 and a half. She loves the blanket. My DN has just posted a photo on Facebook of GN lying on the sofa with her "baba" (what GN has named her blanket) captioned "It's too cold, so I'm just going to watch TV with my "baba"". I feel so pleased that my GN loves the blanket, as a lot of my heart went into the blanket. I see them regularly and GN carries the blanket round (even though it's bigger than she is) and it's her comfort object and her favourite thing in the whole world - she takes it to Nursery and sleeps under it at night.

I'm probably being UR to be both pleased and slightly sad about this. I'm crying feeling that my daughter is looking out for this very special little girl but also sad she's not here as she'd have loved the blanket and loved GN.

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BaffledMummy · 25/11/2017 08:55

How lovely OP. You might have made me cry a little bit!

MinervaSaidThar · 25/11/2017 08:57

How beautiful, OP. If you're unreasonable, then so am I, that made me cry. I think your DN and GN are very lucky to have you in their lives.

underthebluemoon · 25/11/2017 08:58

How lovely. You should be very very pleased.

Tugtupite · 25/11/2017 08:58

Lovely OP that's a wonderful thing to have done and lovely that it's appreciated so much.And I'm sorry about your daughter Flowers

Redsrule · 25/11/2017 09:00

You sound so warm and generous, this made me cry too. Thank you for posting this.

PugwallsSummer · 25/11/2017 09:03

You sound like a really special person. Your niece and great niece are lucky to have you in their lives. I bet your daughter would be really proud of you.

Frouby · 25/11/2017 09:03

That's lovely OP. I would be pleased too. I am chuffed if one of my dns like whichever bit of plastic crap I have bought for a birthday present never mind something as special as a homemade baba. Flowers

ProbablyShouldntShouldI · 25/11/2017 09:03

I was just pleased GN liked it, was never intending it to become a "special" object, I know DN wanted to talk about her cousin as GN got older but it makes it even more special that it's her comfort object and she's named it.

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moggle · 25/11/2017 09:04

Aw that is really lovely that it's so special to her! You must be so pleased but like you say a real mixture of emotions. I'm sorry for the loss of your daughter you must miss her so much. My cousin died from a chronic genetic illness when she was 16, I was a similar age and it was so sad. I've always been close to her mum and dad, when I had my DD 3 years ago we gave her my cousins name as a middle name and I often tell her about who she is named after. It is so nice to keep that connection, it sounds like "baba" will be treasured for years and years to come!

Alittlepotofrosie · 25/11/2017 09:05

How beautiful is that! I'm glad that your niece and grand niece have brought you comfort in this way Flowers I'm sorry for your loss.

Pancakeflipper · 25/11/2017 09:08

That is so touching. Must be love poured into making it shining through.

PoorYorick · 25/11/2017 09:15

Love in every stitch, and every part of your life. There will always be love.

PuntasticUsername · 25/11/2017 09:17

That's so lovely.

Fanciedachange17 · 25/11/2017 09:21

Poignant and so very beautiful.

LunasSpectreSpecs · 25/11/2017 09:22

That's lovely. It's great when you put your time, effort and heart into making something which is so appreciated.

steppedonlego · 25/11/2017 09:22

Beautiful and touching. Your GN is lucky to have you op. Flowers

kaitlinktm · 25/11/2017 09:32

I remember my grandma used to have a saying when talking about handmade clothes/toys - "made with love". It was especially true in your case and I think your great niece on some level feel or understands this and that is why she loves the blanket so much. Bless you OP.

yourhavingagiraffee · 25/11/2017 09:33

That's beautiful op.

whoareyoukidding · 25/11/2017 09:34

That's lovely Flowers

Whinesalot · 25/11/2017 09:35

That's such a sad but lovely, story to read. I can see see how it brings you comfort and pain at the same time. [Flowers]

Imsorrynow · 25/11/2017 09:35

Beautiful post OP Flowers

Slartybartfast · 25/11/2017 09:36
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SaturdaySauv · 25/11/2017 09:39

Knowing how much my DD relies on her 'bab-bab' your DN's little one will treasure it for years to come I'd say Flowers

ITCouldBeWorse · 25/11/2017 09:42

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Council · 25/11/2017 09:43

That's lovely I'm so pleased for you all that it became such a special thing. It made me cry too Smile

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