Fed up with cheeky fuckers(18 Posts)
Neighbours got a new puppy a few months back. Since then I've given them unused dog food (dry packets and wet stuff all unopened - our dog had dietary issues so had to try out a range of things), training mats for accidents - unused of course, an unused but brand new lead (didn't suit our dog), oh and opened packs of dog biscuits (our dog didn't take to them, fussy little shit!) Total roughly £40-50 ish.....I also bought the new dog, out of the goodness of my heart, a squeaky toy!
Anyway, sold them a travel cage for dog - second hand but in an excellent state. Owe them a fiver for this transaction as we didn't have change handy at the time. Granted, it's been a few weeks but I've not forgotten. Mentioned I was selling something else (not animal related, not that it's particularly relevant) and neighbour has expressed interest and replied in message that we could knock the money off we still owe, joke joke, ha ha. Fair enough but is it me or are some people just cheeky? Fair enough we do owe them but after all the good will shown previously, you'd think they'd be a bit more flexible.
I've experienced similar when selling stuff online. Few years back I tried to sell a practically brand new pushchair. People just kept trying to knock the price down. In the end I wheeled it round to the local charity shop.
It’s not ‘out of the goodness of your heart’ though, if it was, you wouldn’t be writing this post!!!!
I wouldn't mention the fiver. It's fucking cheeky.
Sorry, so you had donated approx £40-50 out of generosity?
Then afterwards they complained about being £5 short on the carrier?
In which case yes they are CF
Quietly pay them the fiver and don’t give them or sell them anything else.
Thanks. Thought it was me. Don't think I'll be passing on anything anymore. Another neighbour said she'd passed on unopened baby gros to them, probably about twenty quids worth, a few years back. Not even a thank you. How do some people sleep at night??!
Won't be cavender. They can bugger off. I've started just giving stuff to charity now or selling things to strangers. Still amazes me though how people try and haggle. I'm all for a bargain as much as the next person but don't take the piss.
Know what you mean. I had this when I listed some barely worn Startrites for toddlers on a Facebook page, for free, to help someone out. I'd done this with some other bits and people were lovely - listed them on when their baby outgrew them, sent photos of their baby in them, that sort of thing. Just a nice site for mums to help other mums. Then it grew like crazy because really nice stuff was on at low prices, or for free, and the attitudes changed. I had messages such as, "I can take these off your hands if you post some detailed photos."
These were barely worn thirty quid shoes, with sizing clearly given plus stock photo plus one of the bloody things. No way on earth was I handing them over to someone with that attitude. Just jaw dropping.
I remember a poster on MN, back in the days when it was smaller and people gave stuff away, listing an as new Cath Kidston change bag. Convention had it that you paid postage, but she waived this and sent it anyway. The recipient never even bothered to thank her - free item, very expensive in shops, solid value on Ebay, and her kind donor even paid to get it to her. And she never even said thank you.
People such as that are why we can't have nice things.
Like I say, I'm done passing stuff onto them and selling them anything. I'd much rather give stuff to the charity shop.
At least I know they are CF and it's not just me being over sensitive.
Did they want the stuff you gave them or were you dumping all your unwanted dog-stuff on them because you didn't want it for your dog?
Perhaps they thought they were doing you the favour by taking it off your hands?
Fair point Tick. But no, I saw them at a mutual friends party previous to this and mentioned the dog food and they said they could definitely use it. I assumed they'd need the training pads as puppies make a lot of mess and have lots of accidents and they are very house proud. If they didn't want the stuff for FREE then they should have said. But they did want it.
And each time they have come to our house to collect the items....so hardly dumping!
@sleeponeday your expectations are shocking, you'll always be disappointed if that really was the case! Not suprising though given your description of the site being for 'mums to help other mums'...most inclusive.
Dismayed once again at some of the quality replies here.
Were you planning to sell the dog food? If not then they have simply taken landfill off your hands in their eyes. The squeaky toy is another matter but that was a gift, they didn't ask for it you did it of your own accord.
The £5 is another issue and I can see your point but if they thought the other stuff was just them taking unusable items off your hands it probably doesn't even register with them.
They do seem tight as a duck's arse though.
Taylor86 Are you suggesting it's shocking to expect a thank you for doing something nice?
I have a family member a bit like this. I've recently passed on a few bits for their DC that my DC has outgrown, but in excellent condition and I could have got money for by selling locally. But good deed, just wanting to be rid etc won out. I didn't expect rapturous praise, but I'd given them a good few things recently. DM suggested to them if they didn't want to give me money a small Christmas gift would be nice, as we exchanged the latest bit of baby kit on Christmas day. But they didn't even give me a card.
I said to DM I don't think I'll give them anything else now and she agreed. The kicker is I'm a single Mum who gets no support from XP, whilst their combined income is over 4 times what I earn AND they get support from their wealthy in laws.
Some people are just all take OP. You won't change their actions, but you can change yours and stop being so generous to people who don't appreciate it. I'm going to do that.
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