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To use caterers in my own home?

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thatsenoughalready Fri 24-Nov-17 20:47:58

Can I ask, do people think it's bit rude to use caterers if you're hosting a dinner party at home? I've done quite a few dinner parties recently and another one tomorrow night. Now DH has asked people over next weekend and I can't be bothered. Would it be odd?

confusedandemployed Fri 24-Nov-17 20:48:47

Never done it. Totally would! YANBU

Illstartexercisingtomorrow Fri 24-Nov-17 20:49:23

Nope. Nothing wrong at all with actually being able to enjoy your own party rather than having the stress of hosting and cooking and serving and cleaning.

rightsaidfrederickII Fri 24-Nov-17 20:49:29

Can't you just go to Waitrose, buy some premade stuff and put it on baking trays / in dishes that make it look like you made it yourself?

oldlaundbooth Fri 24-Nov-17 20:50:16

Personally I don't see a problem.

Ladyformation Fri 24-Nov-17 20:50:22

Not odd, totally fine. Takes the pressure off.

OMGtwins Fri 24-Nov-17 20:51:00

DH invited them. Therefore he does the prep, cooking and tidying up afterwards. Simples.

OMGtwins Fri 24-Nov-17 20:52:09

Other than that, yeah use them, on the presumption money is not a problem.

thatsenoughalready Fri 24-Nov-17 20:54:06

I went to someone's house a while back and they had people from a Thai restaurant who prepared and served the food while she just chilled with us.
On the other hand, I wonder if you're going to do that, why not just take people to the restaurant itself. Do people come to your house expecting home/cooked food and an effort to have been made? Or don't they care?

ProseccoPoppy Fri 24-Nov-17 20:54:21

One of my (more senior so better off) work colleagues always gets our office restaurant chef (who is classically trained) to cater his dinner parties. If I could comfortably afford it then I 100% would now and will absolutely do so in the future. Apart from being slightly dearer I don’t see that it’s really any different to buying it all from Cook or Waitrose (and I wouldn’t judge you for that and have done that myself in the past) and will be more personal and means you can properly relax. Do it!

Parker231 Fri 24-Nov-17 20:55:04

It’s not your problem or responsibility if your DH has done the inviting.

Pop24 Fri 24-Nov-17 20:55:18

I work for a caterer and we do dinner parties every weekend in people's homes. It's totally normal and totally fine. Nice for guests to have a host whose relaxed and who they actually get to talk to.

sabbby82 Fri 24-Nov-17 20:56:10

I've done this as a birthday meal for DH with friends. Was perfect, delicious food without the fuss and all the cleaning up done!

ThePinkOcelot Fri 24-Nov-17 20:56:35

Definitely not unreasonable.

HaHaHmm Fri 24-Nov-17 20:57:01

It’s great IF you have a separate dining room. It is a bit weird having strangers in the kitchen if the dining table is only a few feet away.

WillowWeeping Fri 24-Nov-17 20:57:21

I’ve done it before but only with close friends. With people you don’t know so well it could feel a bit formal.

Ginslinger Fri 24-Nov-17 20:57:39

I used to do this a lot when I was working - it's fine.

thatsenoughalready Fri 24-Nov-17 20:58:24

Thanks - it's his friends anyway so I might get caterers in and leave them to it.

PinkHeart5914 Fri 24-Nov-17 21:01:51

Me and dh have done it a few times for dinner parties. Neither of us wanted to cook for 15 people so we paid someone else to do it and we got to enjoy the evening 😃

Ethylred Fri 24-Nov-17 21:02:39

Totally do it. Why is it different from hiring a cleaner or a nanny?

DramaAlpaca Fri 24-Nov-17 21:03:30

I've done this for big gatherings. It's fine.

Ethylred Fri 24-Nov-17 21:03:45

I should have said: totally do it provided they are expensive.
You would regret the cheap kind.

Crumbs1 Fri 24-Nov-17 21:05:37

If you’ve a special occasion home caterers are a good idea. If you can afford it, go for it. Otherwise do simple but lovely - Foreman and Field smoked salmon with brown bread and butter, Merchant Gourmand miniature figs in syrup with mascarpone then you only have to do a main. Something like lamb shanks that can be popped into oven to do themselves with ready made mashed potatoe. Easy.

ReanimatedSGB Fri 24-Nov-17 21:08:12

Nothing wrong with it at all. You're boosting the local economy by hiring someone to do some work for you: just don't expect them to bow and curtsey when they dish up the food ;)

Llanali Fri 24-Nov-17 21:08:18

It’s perfectly acceptable. Smart dinners are something I have outsourced in the past.

Supper with friends, no, but then we are very casual and last minute so no one expects more than prawn curry, lasagne, roast meat with dauphinois and veg etc.

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