Aibu ...ditched at lunchtimes!

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

AIBU here

Myself, colleague 1 and colleague 2 all started our job at the same time and we're put in a training group together. We hit it off really well and used to spend a lot of lunch times together. When we completed training I was put in a department with colleague. Colleague 2 was placed in another department.

Me and colleague 1 used to hang out most lunch times with a few others but mainly me and her. A year down the line I felt bad for Colleague 2 and felt as though she had been forgotten about so suggested we all meet up again for lunch.

We did and we all got on well. Great? Well now it appears Colleague 1 and 2 have started meeting up most lunchtimes without asking me. That's fine, but it's been about8 months since I've been asked to join them.

I have questioned this with Colleague 1 and she says it's because I go for lunch slightly earlier than them (flexi lunch time so I'd be happy to accommodate to their time occasionally). AIBU that i feel hurt I encouraged Colleague 2 to join us again yet I feel ditched by them both

[Whatsoccuringlovely]

Ouch that’s mean girls op.

Poor you. I would make a date to lunch with them one more time and if that’s avoided then move on and find better friends as you sound lovely

[Trinity66]

No I don't think you're being unreasonable, it's bound to hurt, it sounds like really childish behaviour tbh. Actually it's really similar to something that happened with my daughter and her two friends. She had her best friend from primary school but they were in different classes in secondary school and my daughter became really good friends with a new girl, her frind from primary really disliked the new friend and was always trying to exclude her from things but my daughter was always very fair to them both...until all of sudden they started getting on really well and ditched my daughter :(

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

Thanks :) these people are about 10 -15 years older than me so I would be concerned if they were being mean girls

Glad I am NBU

[NapQueen]

So you left C2 out for a year?

Taste of your own medicine I think.

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

Nap queen.... nooo .... we naturally drifted as we were placed in different teams and she made her own friends. I suggested a reunion because we were the original group before going on our teams