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AIBU to want to cherish Christmas morning?

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DLB18 Thu 23-Nov-17 17:17:40

My MiL and FiL live the other side of the country but often come and stay with us which I enjoy. However, this can be quite stressful as DH doesn't do a great deal!! I have to think of meals, shop and cook them and think of things to do with them.

Every year we have spent Christmas morning just me, my DH, DS and DD before going to my mum's for dinner. Then for New Year his family will come to ours we do a big celebration on NYE with both families. On New Years Day we do a Christmas Day for his family - all six of them stay over, I do stockings for them all, cook breakfast in the morning and a big Christmas Dinner. This has been lovely for several years, all the family spends quality time together as as New Year isn't often seen as a 'big celebration' by lots of other people we often don't have problems getting time off work etc.

Now my DH has turned around and said he wants his family to stay on Christmas Eve next year!

AIBU to say no?!

I don't mind them coming to stay throughout the year - often at short notice but I want to keep Christmas morning just us.

I even said to DH that I was happy they came for Christmas but if they could stay in a hotel.

MerryMarigold Thu 23-Nov-17 17:21:56

Personally I think YABU, but it's your house. Dh just wants a change I guess. I can't think of anything worse than doing Christmas all over again at New Year when you've finally finished with it. Can your parents come to you on xmas day and you do what you normally do at New Year just at xmas. Then spend new year's day relaxing!!

Greyponcho Thu 23-Nov-17 17:25:24

Unless he’s willing to pull his weight, tell him to jog on!!
Why should you do all the thinking, preparing and slaving?! It’s your Christmas too!!

PuppyMonkey Thu 23-Nov-17 17:26:32

I couldn't get past the bit about your DH not doing a great deal TBH.

Tell him he should do stuff.

WhooooAmI24601 Thu 23-Nov-17 17:27:53

If he wants them to stay he can organise it. All of it. If he can't organise it, he can't do it.

YellowMakesMeSmile Thu 23-Nov-17 17:29:39

YABU, it's his house and you have had your parents over every Christmas Day so unfair to say he can't. Just make sure he pulls his weight.

AmysTiara Thu 23-Nov-17 17:30:01

Your Dh has got it cushy hasn't he. Cheeky bugger.

Tell him if he wants them to come he can do all the work.

AmysTiara Thu 23-Nov-17 17:33:22

Yellow where does the op say she has her own parents over every Christmas day? She says they go to her mum's.

DLB18 Thu 23-Nov-17 17:34:56

My parents don't come to ours we go to their house where my mum does everything for us - my one 'day off' which to be honest is probably the reason I want to cherish it so much haha!!

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