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To think why moan about sending your child to a faith school?

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farmerswifey33 Thu 23-Nov-17 12:16:43

We are lucky in that where we live schools are undersubscribed and you have a very good choice of 3 primary schools 2 of which are faith (CofE) and the other isn’t.
We have so many parents at the school who moan about the fact it’s too goddy 🙄 or that there is a nativity play as they don’t believe. Worst thing I think is how they tell their children this who then tell my children they are stupid for believing in god and Jesus!
I just wonder why they would send their children here because they DO have a choice! I don’t get it?

MinervaSaidThar Thu 23-Nov-17 12:19:31

They're twats and hypocrites.

I'm not a Christian but it's annoying that so many atheists forget their values as soon as it comes to schools.

araiwa Thu 23-Nov-17 12:19:39

So could the one school take every non c of e kid?

TheStoic Thu 23-Nov-17 12:22:00

I don’t believe for a second that anyone is complaining about a nativity play.

pointythings Thu 23-Nov-17 12:22:19

People who moan when they have real choice are just rude. People whose children are rude to other children for believing have poor parents. But lots of people do not have non faith options and that is wrong.

nancy75 Thu 23-Nov-17 12:24:06

In your case no yanbu but in lots of areas the choice is faith school or no school. If I had to send my child to a faith school I would moan.

MissionItsPossible Thu 23-Nov-17 12:27:20

There shouldn't be any faith schools IMO.

BarbarianMum Thu 23-Nov-17 12:29:47

<<So could the one school take every non c of e kid?>>

^^This. And is it equally convenient for them distance wise?

ByThePowerOfRa Thu 23-Nov-17 12:31:23

Yanbu. That’s very hypocritical of them, considering you say that they do have a choice in your area.

Ps4widow Thu 23-Nov-17 12:31:57

My dd is in a rc school and the amount of moaning about it is unreal.

irregularegular Thu 23-Nov-17 12:32:05

About a quarter of state primary schools are C of E. In many cases, especially if you live more rurally, you have no real choice: the only local school is a faith school. As an atheist, I think it is wrong and was sometimes unhappy when christianity became too dominant at our primary school. One of the factors in choosing our village over a neighbouring one was that the religious aspect seemed less important. Unfortunately that changed somewhat when the head changed. Having said that, I wouldn't have complained about a nativity - that is part of our shared culture.

elvesareneverhappy Thu 23-Nov-17 12:32:23

YABU about sending your kids to faith schools when you don't believe. I an religious just not CofE but the schools by me are all CofE. What can I do?

ButchyRestingFace Thu 23-Nov-17 12:34:07

There shouldn't be any faith schools IMO

But there are. And it wasn’t what the OP asked.

YANBU, OP. Do you think its about proximity/results?

AnnPerkins Thu 23-Nov-17 12:36:56

I don't believe anyone complains about nativity plays either TheStoic.

MissionItsPossible Thu 23-Nov-17 12:38:09

But there are. And it wasn’t what the OP asked.

Ok. Was just giving my opinion on the matter.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat Thu 23-Nov-17 12:39:36

Agree with PP. Religious schools are a joke. Maybe OP needs to ask why they chose that school. I assume they have their reasons.

Also what's wrong with other kids challenging the "beliefs" of your children? It's bad enough you bring them up on this utter nonsense but then you complain when their peers talk sense to them? In an increasingly secular world they will have to get used to it. And so will you.

MissEliza Thu 23-Nov-17 12:42:07

That hacks me off. My dh is Muslim and obviously we are raising the dcs as Muslim. There are two excellent schools in our area, one being C of E. I chose not to send the dcs there because I respect they are trying to raise dcs with Christian values and I don't want that. A Muslim friend chose to send her kids there and criticised us for choosing it saying 'THEY can't make the kids doing anything'. I thought that was a fucking appalling attitude when there was a perfectly good secular school down the road. It's like some people want to make life difficult for others.

YouCantArgueWithStupid Thu 23-Nov-17 12:42:34

DDs pre school is a faith pre school. We don’t have a faith. We chose this one because of how well they interact with the children etc. Flip side of that is when they go to church for harvest/Easter service/Christmas etc we suck it up.

AppleTrayBake Thu 23-Nov-17 12:45:15

But should non-faith children have 1/3 of the choice of schools? It's farcical.

It must be annoying when the best/most convenient school is pushing an agenda you don't agree with.

I would moan too. I find it hard to believe anyone sending their DC is a CofE school is complaining about a nativity though 🤔

RainbowWish Thu 23-Nov-17 12:48:09

I think it is just a lack of respect for other peoples beliefs.
I went to a Catholic school as a child but was not Catholic and my mother always taught me to respect other people's views and to take part.
And i worked in a Catholic school and yes people do object to the nativity etc and some keep thier their children off during church visit days.
It's a shame but tolerance and respect for others is lacking sadly

BarbarianMum Thu 23-Nov-17 12:51:06

Hah! People complain about nativity plays all the time. Mostly that their child isn't Mary, or was a sheep last year.

Our preschool managed to do a whole nativity play (in church) without one mention of God or Jesus (just "a very special baby") which was impressive but somehow bizzare.

ivykaty44 Thu 23-Nov-17 12:51:51

All schools by law have to have god bits

I’d rather they were all secular - but there not

So moaning is allowed, YABU

Halfdrankbrew Thu 23-Nov-17 12:52:02

I can't understand why either if the choice is there. Do the faith schools feed into a better high school maybe?

I'm not at all religious (although brought up going to faith schools) but I'll be sending my children to the same schools as I attended. The none faith schools where we live aren't great and the faith primary school feeds into the outstanding faith high school. It's a no brainer for me, I'm happy to go along with a bit of religion if it means my kids get a good education.

TheStoic Thu 23-Nov-17 12:53:22

Hah! People complain about nativity plays all the time. Mostly that their child isn't Mary, or was a sheep last year.

I believe the OP means that people are complaining that the nativity play is happening at all. Not about who is playing what.

BarbarianMum Thu 23-Nov-17 12:53:47

I agree faith should be respected but so should lack of faith Rainbow. Expecting an atheist to pray or attend church or follow a set of beliefs they don't subscribe to is not respectful.

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