I'm in a really sticky spot. Basically I've fallen out of love with my partner. He's a kind man but we've been through so much in the last few years I think it's sobered me up to his faults and I want out. He is addicted to spending money and being flash despite us being relatively poor. He drinks too much but because it's wine he thinks it's fine. He wants to live a life like his brother but his brother earns £100k plus. He won't be talked round to living more frugally. He is recently self employed so he could 'follow his dreams' and whilst business is ok- we still quite often need to ask for loans from parents which I hate doing but he has no problem with it. Recently he 'surprised' me and booked us a trip away- the next month we were broke and had to get another loan. He has no idea.
His mother treats me like absolute dirt for no other reason than I don't iron my DS clothes 'as much as she would' and silly things like that.
My fathers always been great with finances and although he doesn't say- I know he must be worrying and shudders to think how are finances are. I want out as I feel so out of control but I'm scared me leaving him will give my father a heart attack as I wil need to live with parents with my 2 kids- my fathers just bankrolled my brothers divorce and I just feel trapped, embarrassed and scared.
I'm not working as I've not long ago had a two month premature baby which has caused me an enormous amount of stress. I do help out with the business a lot though.
I'm just fed up of scrimping and doing the numbers so that other half can maintain certain lifestyle. I want out but don't know how. Do I seem bad for wanting to leave him because essentially of financial reasons?
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11pud · 23/11/2017 10:57
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