To think 25 yr old DSD is old enough to make her own Xmas plans?

[K1092902]

DSD is 25 and has lived with me and DH for nearly 6 months after a pretty big falling out with her mum.

We are planning on visiting DHs relatives over Xmas- except DSD doesn't want to go. She wants to spend time with her boyfriend and her friends and i think she is old enough to make her own decisions.

Shes not a massive Xmas dinner fan anyway so i was going to cook her er favourite tea to heat up for Xmas day and leave her a bottle of wine to drink and give her presents before we.

DH has got a titty lip on.

AIBU?

[TheNoseyProject]

No that’s fine. Why isn’t she going to get boyfriend’s?

[HelloSquirrels]

Shes 25 ffs of course shes old enough to do what she wants!

[Bringmewineandcake]

A titty lip?

She’s 25! Does your DH want to drag her round his rellies like a sulky teenager?

[MrBloomsLeftVeg]

Need to know what a titty lip is please?

[DO3271]

YANBU

She is a grown woman, and has been for some time.

[AnxietyStrikes]

I'm a 26 year old mother with my own family and my mum still doesn't let me do what I want to do on Christmas day.
It causes huge resentment and I constantly feel under massive pressure. Ruins Christmas for me.
Let her do what's she wants don't ruin it for her like my mum does ever year.

[Anniegetyourgun]

If she's 25 she's also old enough not to have her tea cooked for her, to lay in her own bottles and to pick out her presents under the tree where all right-thinking people place them, surely?

[daisypond]

What does DH think should happen? She go with you, or you all stay at home together? Or something else?

[Itsnotmesothere]

You sound like a fabuously indulgent stepmum! How nice of you. Your husband needs to get a grip. She is 25! YANBU

[Itsnotmesothere]

Are you scared of your mum, anxietystrikes ? It's hard but why not say "this year we'll be having christmas by ourselves, as a family. See you on Boxing Day?"

[Crunchymum]

DH's relatives are her relatives too?

[K1092902]

Basically yes- he wants to drag her around like a sulky teenager. We are only going for 2 nights but she will be miserable and it is her Xmas as well!

[Namechangetempissue]

Yoi sound great! Would love you as a SM. YANBU

[Mrsmadevans]

Good God she is 25 ! Tell DH she will prob have a whale of a time with all her friends at the party she will throw in your absence lol

[HeebieJeebies456]

She's 25 years old.......why isn't she living in her own place?

You both need to stop infantilising her............

[NoSquirrels]

Eh? 25 year old boy ants to hang with friends at Christmas and your DH thinks she should come away with him ... why, exactly? Did he miss the whole 18th birthday = adult thing?

[Runningbutnotscared]

This place is full of odd sayings today. I hated 'butt hurt' and now there's 'titty lip'. WTF is a 'titty lip'?

[ForagingForFaerieGold]

Titty lip.- Sulky face, pouting etc. To get your own way. And yes, he's being ridiculous.

[NoSquirrels]

Not sure what boy ants are! DYAC.

[VimFuego101]

Titty lip

Why would he want to make her spend Christmas somewhere she doesn't want to be? What you're suggesting sounds fine.

[Wilburissomepig]

No of course you're not being unreasonable and the fact you have used the quite fabulous 'titty lip' phrase, means I like the cut of your jib anyway.

[juneau]

Ask him what he did for Christmas when he was 25 and whether he'd have appreciated being dragged somewhere against his will by his parents.