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AIBU to get butt-hurt about pples reaction to my pregnancy ?!..

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Littlehouseonthepraririe Tue 21-Nov-17 13:39:27

Am pregnant with my 6th! I want to share the good news on facebook, not with a fanfare or some obscure balloon riddled/ cryptic sign (tho I do enjoy other pples announcements like that)! But just with a standard f.b post as we have a lot of friends /fam all over the world (and mainly because I'm excited)!

However, when I shared the news of our 5th along with the congratulations I had a Lot of OMG ur mental/ mad etc comments.

Would I look weird if along with sharing the news I tagged on a little light hearted something like ' we know the Waltons life isn't for everyone and we might seem a bit bonkers, but we are really excited to introduce a new member to our clan'.. In the hope that it will ward off What's Wrong With You type comments ?!?

We have a large home for lots of children and my OH works from home so the children aren't lacking in time or space etc and they are always asking for more siblings, and this is the life I've Always wanted, so I don't really Get why pple would write comments like I had last time..
I mean I have lots of friends travelling in the back of beyond or moving up the corporate ladder , which personally is my idea of hell, but I am genuinely happy that they are happy and following their dreams, so obviously just write positive, congratulatory comments when they announce they've landed in a new country / got a promotion..
Am I being butt-hurty and overly sensitive unnecessarily , and would it look rude for me to write something jokey in an attempt to ward off the bat shit crazy comments..?

DumbledoresPensieve Tue 21-Nov-17 13:42:37

YABU for using the phrase 'butt-hurt'! It's grim 😂

Otherwise no. But why do you care? Sod everyone else if you're happy and your kids are all happy too.

I wouldn't even bother with the Waltons style announcement. If you get a 'you're mad' comments I'd suggest you reply individually to each with the old MN classic.... 'Did you mean to be so rude?'

LovingLola Tue 21-Nov-17 13:42:54


bottlesandcans Tue 21-Nov-17 13:42:59

6 is just ridiculous that's why people comment.

Cookiesandcake Tue 21-Nov-17 13:44:08

Why is 6 ridiculous bottlesandcans?

PinkHeart5914 Tue 21-Nov-17 13:44:31

6 children isn’t the norm so I can see why people comment on it and I would be a little taken back at someone having a 6th child only becuase I don’t know anyone that has that many however I certainly wouldn’t be rude about it.

As long as you can afford 6 children and care for them properly what has it got to do with anyone else? It’s your womb

I would put the little message about your life not being for everyone etc, hopefully that will make a few think before saying something rude

Congratulations 💐

LovingLola Tue 21-Nov-17 13:44:49

So do you have Hugo and 4 other children?

FannyWisdom Tue 21-Nov-17 13:45:18

Don't announce it. You have five kids no one will notice the extra one.

TrojansAreSmegheads Tue 21-Nov-17 13:45:59

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Namechangetempissue Tue 21-Nov-17 13:47:44

I can't get past butt hurty! Never heard that before, I thought the title was a typo!
Congratulations on your 6th, I wouldn't bother announcing if I was you (not on FB anyway). Your nearest and dearest will know anyway presumably, who cares if a bunch of FB mates think you are mad for having another? None of their business.

EastDulwichWife Tue 21-Nov-17 13:48:02

You're being over sensitive. Most people would think it's mad to have 6 kids because they couldn't possibly imagine it. They're not actually concerned by your decision to do it.

Announcing on Facebook is naff though, so YABU to want to do that.

Whatsoccuringlovely Tue 21-Nov-17 13:49:36

Well we had 5 so had comments like this all the time. Goeswith the territory unfurtunatiy. People are fucking rude like the comment above.

Announce and take all comments humorously and don’t answer individually.

Good luck with the new baby and it’s fun having lots. Our baby is 18 now.

BatteredBreadedOrSouthernFried Tue 21-Nov-17 13:51:20

What does your butt have to do with it? confused

Don’t announce it. Play a trick on people. Just have the baby but never publicallh acknowledge him. When people see you and say “ahh I didn’t know you had another baby” you look at them blankly and say “I didn’t” ignore all references to him. It’ll be fun. grin

AprilShowers16 Tue 21-Nov-17 13:51:27

Could you acknowledge it in a slightly more fun and less intense way. So something like 'yes we know we're crazy but we wouldn't have it any other way - no. 6 coming soon'

Littlehouseonthepraririe Tue 21-Nov-17 13:51:35

Haha sry about the b.hurt choice of word, my ten year old says it a lot and now we're all using it 🙈
Bottlesandcans I'm presuming u commented to give me the opportunity to practice Dumbledores line of Did u mean to be so rude ? 😆
As I said, I know it's not everyone's cup of tea, but we are really happy and have the money and home for a large family .. So y not? 😀

HolyShet Tue 21-Nov-17 13:57:02

CONGRATULATIONS! I would love a huge family but for us it wasn't to be.

Just be relentlessly positive and not apologetic about it at all.

I'd tell your 10 year old to stop saying "butt-hurt". It's homophobic and offensive (I will let you research it).

Littlehouseonthepraririe Tue 21-Nov-17 13:58:24

OH god I really didn't think about what it actually meant (wish I could in use it on this thread )!! Will defo stop it being used now! (Thanks)

Littlehouseonthepraririe Tue 21-Nov-17 13:58:56


mustbemad17 Tue 21-Nov-17 14:01:47

Shall I give you chance to practice?

OMG six kids, are you craaaazy?! Why on earth would you do such an insane thing?!

Feel free to practice your responses 😝

People are just wankers. I'm on pregnancy number 3 (but baby number 2 for us) & already have had 'you're nuts' - erm, okay, and you're a prick? Be happy, you obviously have a wonderful family ready to envelope the new baby in fun & love; let the rest of the world get on with their own mundane stuff.


Clovertoast Tue 21-Nov-17 14:02:58

HolyShet Erm well according to Urban Dictionary Butt hurt means this:
Getting your feelings hurt, being offended or getting all bent out of shape because of something petty or stupid.

Roney got butthurt when Drew did not help him clean
#offended#petty#stupid#whiny#pissed off

confused So not sure how that's homophobic confused

mustbemad17 Tue 21-Nov-17 14:06:01

FWIW have always known the term 'butt-hurt' to mean as Clover says. The Americans all used to use it at school & that's going back a good 15 years! Never known it be homophobic but better get on to my mate in case he uses it on a date & offends someone (yes he's gay) 😱😱

AnUtterIdiot Tue 21-Nov-17 14:09:29

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EllaEllaE Tue 21-Nov-17 14:09:55

First off -- Congratulations!!

I'm from a very large family, and my mum has always found peoples' 'jokes' hurtful (and the bad news is they never stop). Even I feel the need to explain it, when I tell people how many siblings I have, though I wish I didn't have to. People are judgemental, unfortunately, and there's little you can do about it.

But of course you should announce your pregnancy, if you want to and did for the others! The suggestions above that no one will care because it's your 6th baby rather than your 1st or 2nd are really mean. It's not like you won't love this baby, and be just as excited by it's arrival as other people feel for theirs!

As a side note -- being an adult with a lot of adult siblings is fantastic. My partner is an only child with few other relatives his age, and the difference is tremendous.

DumbledoresPensieve Tue 21-Nov-17 14:10:19

I don't know if it has its origins in homophobia or not, but regardless it's not a nice thing for a ten year old to say!

Jinglebellhell17 Tue 21-Nov-17 14:11:00

Those that are environmentally aware won’t be particularly thrilled with your news but they should just say nothing. In your shoes I’d be more likely to announce the birth rather than the pregnancy. People are generally more gracious about a baby than a pregnancy.

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