Ok this may sound silly, but it makes me feel really bad for talking about our Christmas plans in front of or with a good friend!
We have been friends for years, we are like chalk and cheese but get on so well. We have been brought up in the same area same kind of background ECT..
I love Christmas, it think it's all about kids and family, I will do anything to make it special and rememerable for my children. Neither me or my friend have a great deal of money but i make the best of it. I started buying our kids christmas presents in july.
My friend however seems to have no care for Christmas. Her kids pick what they want so no exitment for Santa, one of her children is going away for Xmas with a family member, she says she can't afford a lot of presents or decorations, they don't visit santa. She hasn't brought a single present yet. She basically puts little effort in.
I never talk about how much I'm spending or what I'm buying, she knows we start early and have a strict budget. But whenever I talk about Xmas, she goes so quiet, she has told me it's because she can't afford it, and I make her feel bad.
My husband works so hard for what we Have, her and her boyfriend don't work, and she is happy to say what money they get, so I know for a fact they actually have more money coming in than us, but she is so silly with money.
I was talking to another friend earlier about Xmas eve routines, I told her I had just brought my kids a special Rudolph hot chocolate bag each for Xmas eve and will get them a book each to go with it. These rudolph things were only a pound each. I was explaining that I put treats like this on there pillows Xmas eve so they see it when they go get there pjs, and leave them little letters from Santa to tell them to go to sleep nicely. I love doing this. Today she got the right hump about this, saying I make every one feel bad for not being able to do this for there children.
Am I in the wrong for trying to make Christmas special for my kids. And being exited about it. I do not brag about money. (Not much to brag about). I don't spend a small fortune. I just plan it and spend well. No other friend seems to have a problem with this!
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Not liking to talk about Xmas in front of my friend!
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Obie4 · 20/11/2017 18:24
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