Inspired by another thread and my reply on there (I posted as below) I thought I'd post here for opinions on my specific thing.
We are planning on spending Christmas day with my in laws who we get on with very well, which includes OHs sister and her partner too. OH wants to stay there overnight, even though we're really local and I have no problem driving us home.
I really hate staying at other people's houses anyway, but more so now that DS who is 19m currently will not settle for the night in someone else's house. He used to, but he doesn't anymore even when it's somewhere familiar. We visit the inlaws lots so he knows the house etc.
I am currently trying to convince OH to return home for DS's bedtime - rather than trying to get DS settled fruitlessly for an hour or two before returning home anyway with everyone stressed - and invite his family to ours for the evening (there are no other children to accommodate and I'm happy to drive everyone or they could stay if they wanted). The idea came up in front of his Mum when we were thinking aloud, and she seemed quite happy to come to us for the evening. OH is not keen and wants to 'at least try' staying over there.
I have suggested that we do a dry run staying over there before Christmas and see how that goes with the view that of it's a success then we'll try staying on Christmas Day but if not then we won't. OH is huffy about this as he feels that at 19m DS should just settle wherever we put him down and that 'pandering' to him shows him he can kick off and get his way. I think he's too young to pick this up, and don't want a big stressy time on Christmas Day for any of us.
The following day we are spending with my family and the situation will be much the same there. He won't settle there - we can try but it's doubtful so I expect we'll end up coming home in the evening. Can't really invite everyone to ours that day as my family is huge plus there are is another child who will be going to bed there.
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DumbledoresPensieve · 20/11/2017 17:09
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