Since I became engaged to my wonderful DH (about three years ago) my relationship with my parents (with whom I was once very close to) has become non-existant. (The reason for this is a whole other/many other stories!). They've made it clear that they actively dislike me and hate my DH (to the extent that they blocked me on social media and won't stand in the same room as me). Anyway, my DM (who is quite (very) manipulative) has messaged me saying that she'd like to get me a magazine subscription for Christmas. I thought this was so lovely - thinking perhaps that they'd decided to move on and start re-building bridges. But since then, they have told me that I/we are NOT to get them a present, because they're still incredibly upset with me/us. This has made me very upset - that they're still holding onto daft old quarrels when I want to rebuild our relationship. Also, I enjoy giving presents. Most worryingly, I've got a horrid feeling that if I don't give them anything then it will (at least subconsciously) affect their already-negative image of me/us (and make me into the 'bad-cop'). But if I do, then that might also cause upset, which I don't want either. WWYD? WIBU to send them something?
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floridasunshine · 20/11/2017 15:23
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