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Rebekteach Sun 19-Nov-17 14:33:43

For making my little girl ask to go to the toilet at home.

19lottie82 Sun 19-Nov-17 14:35:17


hotbutteredcrumpetsandtea Sun 19-Nov-17 14:35:47

Yes, yabu.

Emilybrontescorsett Sun 19-Nov-17 14:35:49

Can she not just go by herself?
How old is she?

Ausparent Sun 19-Nov-17 14:36:41

Yes. Unless you are at the meal table and she needs to leave.

Her home is not an institution

EllaHen Sun 19-Nov-17 14:36:47

Yes, YABU.

Rebekteach Sun 19-Nov-17 14:36:54

She always goes in the bathroom and turns the taps on, locks the door and would be in their all day given the choice. She is 5

kaytee87 Sun 19-Nov-17 14:36:54

What? Do you mean she’s very young as needs to ask for your help or do you want her to ask permission to use the toilet in her own home?

Nanny0gg Sun 19-Nov-17 14:38:05

She shouldn't have to ask.

But she could 'tell' you she's going.

Rebekteach Sun 19-Nov-17 14:38:57

I get her to ask so I can make sure she doesn't misbehave, she keeps messing up the bathroom.

Ausparent Sun 19-Nov-17 14:38:59

That's not going to the bathroom OP. That is playing in the bathroom.

She should have autonomy over her bodily functions but isn't allowed to play with the water in the bathroom for hours on end. That is a different conversation

Rebekteach Sun 19-Nov-17 14:39:45

I like that idea Nanny.

Rebekteach Sun 19-Nov-17 14:41:10


She uses the excuse of needing the toilet to get in and play.

DJBaggySmalls Sun 19-Nov-17 14:44:04

Find out what she's playing and try to redirect it into something less destructive, and explain that the bath can be dangerous if you're not there. She could get scalded or worse.

EB123 Sun 19-Nov-17 14:47:42

Put something over the top of the door so she can't close it fully so can't lock it.

Justbookedasummmerholiday Sun 19-Nov-17 14:49:04

As a dm who's ds has just flooded our downstairs today I feel your pain.

ChocolateButton15 Sun 19-Nov-17 15:22:51

Yabu to make her ask! 5 is old enough for you to explain she needs to go toilet, flush, wash hands and leave. Warn her that if she keeps messing up the bathroom then x will happen....i.e remove screen time for a day, make her clean up the mess or remove a toy etc. Maybe move the lock higher up or put a door stop on it so she can't shut it.

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