DD's best friend keeps taking things from DD when she comes round to play. They're both 8. It's not every time and it's always something small like a Shopkin or a teddy bear's T-shirt. Her friend's mum knows she has done it in the past as she's found DD's things hidden in her daughter's room and given them back to us. But she hasn't really disciplined her about it, and she sneaks the things out so she doesn't have to confront her daughter about it.
We're good friends with them and they've been through a horrendous time (the death of DD's friend's father and both grandparents in a short space of time) and they're both still dealing with it all. So I've been quite laid back about it as the stealing is possibly a result of everything she's dealing with and I don't want to kick up a fuss and make my friend feel even worse. She has to deal with all her daughter's emotions all by herself, often spending night after night lying with her while she sobs herself to sleep about her dad. So I completely understand she doesn't feel able to deal with yet another thing.
However, DD has noticed another couple of things missing since her friend came round. We have no proof it was her and they could just be lost in the house (although we have looked everywhere we can think of). I don't want to accuse her friend of taking them in case she hasn't (she'll probably deny it anyway). But DD is feeling sad about it. She just said 'she'd supposed to be my best friend, why would she take my stuff?' Now whenever we can't find something DD automatically assumes her friend took it. But she doesn't want to confront her and upset her.
Not quite sure what to do. I definitely don't want to lose their friendship.
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iwouldgoouttonight · 18/11/2017 15:37
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