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Pinkpowerofthought Sat 18-Nov-17 07:44:28

Moved in two months ago. On a Sunday afternoon I found someone had parked on my driveway next to my car, under the private parking sign. My partner came home and couldn't get on the drive. I wrote a note which was ignored so dp went and found him and he moved it.
Fast forward a month later. The same house different car has parked just the front wheels of their car on our driveway. This has went on for a week.
Last night I drove nose in so he didn't do it and he's now blocked my car in and still parked on the drive.
I have work this morning.
Dp is going round to chat to him later.
I'm heart broken. I feel totally bullied by these ignorant twats and we have just moved in. Trying to get the house lovely and do it up and we have these twats making life a misery.
Can I go to the police about this if it doesn't stop?
He's clearly doing it on purpose. There are other spaces to use and they have their own driveway too.
Included pic of the driveway when it's clear

Cheby Sat 18-Nov-17 07:47:23

I can’t understand from the picture, but can you put a fence up on the boundary line to stop them doing it?

ICanNeverThinkOfAGoodUsrname Sat 18-Nov-17 07:47:44

Do you own or rent?

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed Sat 18-Nov-17 07:49:18

Argh I don't know what it is about parking that brings out the twats in people! It's very annoying. What did the neighbour say when you spoke to them?

JoyceDivision Sat 18-Nov-17 07:49:51

park on their driveway

LIZS Sat 18-Nov-17 07:50:30

Not clear from pic. Does you car fit so it doesn't overhang the pavement? Is there a drop kerb access?

Pinkpowerofthought Sat 18-Nov-17 07:51:12

We just bought it. Can't put a fence up around it either.

notanurse2017 Sat 18-Nov-17 07:52:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Pinkpowerofthought Sat 18-Nov-17 07:52:35

The drive fits two cars. It's a dropped curb. It ours, it's in the deeds.

yowerohotesies Sat 18-Nov-17 07:55:13

The photo is a bit confusing, may we please have a bird's eye view diagram?

Why can't you have a barrier? Also you can install padlocking removable bollards for about £30

SavoyCabbage Sat 18-Nov-17 07:55:49

I’ve been in a similar situation and it was awful. Trying to guess what they would do next and work out what they could possibly be thinking.

I learnt that you can’t ‘win’ as they aren’t thinking in the same way as you are. They are nuts and there isn’t a logic to why they are doing it. The worst thing you can do is play them at their own game. They are just making all of the rules up as they go along so...

Antagonisingbthem will only make it worse. They aren’t going to say “oh, they are parking on my drive so I’ll just stop my ludicrous behaviour and park on my own drive”.

Can you describe the actual parking situation. Are your drives joined etc.

ICanNeverThinkOfAGoodUsrname Sat 18-Nov-17 07:57:41

Ok, at least the fact you've bought it make a things easier.

Firstly, police can't help as its a civil matter as private land.

Secondly, I can't really work out what's what from your photo, sorry.

Can you put drop bollards anywhere that may help? Why can't you put a fence or a gate? When your neighbours park behind you are they still parked on your land? (Sorry for all the questions, just trying to get a full picture of issue in my head).

If you've got your deeds to hand, especially having only just moved in, I would take this over to your neighbours when you have a chat with them so you can be black and white in terms of where your land is and where they can't park.

ICanNeverThinkOfAGoodUsrname Sat 18-Nov-17 07:59:11

You're not allowed to park over drop curbs whee I live (or where I lived before) and if you report it to the council's parking team they often send people out to ticket cars. Could you try this?

MrsOverTheRoad Sat 18-Nov-17 08:03:18

UserName It actually makes no difference whether she owns or rents.

greendale17 Sat 18-Nov-17 08:03:30

Penguin bollards will solve your problem

ICanNeverThinkOfAGoodUsrname Sat 18-Nov-17 08:05:07

If she owns then she doesn't need permission from a landlord to install a fence or bollards though. I think it does make a difference.

Ikanon Sat 18-Nov-17 08:06:18

I'm sorry to hear your neighbours aren't respecting your dropped kerb and driveway. Does your council put H bars across driveways to show people they aren't supposed to park across them?

QuitMoaning Sat 18-Nov-17 08:07:50

MrsOverTheRoad. It does matter.

If she rents, then she has ability to complain to Landlord.
If she owns she has opportunity to make physical changes (eg put up a gate etc)

Pickleypickles Sat 18-Nov-17 08:08:36

Cant you park at the front of the drive so they cant get on it and the move it back when your dp gets home or vise versa?

Lostwithinthehills Sat 18-Nov-17 08:08:44

MrsOvertheRoad surely the difference between owning and renting is the op can install something like penguin bollards without having to seek permission from a landlord in the first instance and in the second she can talk about the land she owns and refer to her deeds rather than talking about the land her rental agreement entitles her to use and asking to refer to her landlords deeds?

flumpybear Sat 18-Nov-17 08:09:19

Knock on the door and ask why they’re parking on your land

JingsMahBucket Sat 18-Nov-17 08:21:11

Can you just call a tow truck? This has happened at least three times and it's obvious the person doesn't respect you as a woman seeing as how he only responds to your DP. While implementing/planning for the bollard installation, just have their cars towed. If you're feeling graceful, sure leave them a note warning them that next time the car will be towed but you don't have to be. You've been graceful enough already.

underneaththeash Sat 18-Nov-17 08:24:21

From your picture, it looks like you can actually park behind them and block them in. That should stop them parking on your drive.

Mummyoflittledragon Sat 18-Nov-17 08:27:36

Park one car on the drive and another across your dropped kerb. Get a copy of your deeds and explain to them it is your property. They may perhaps think it’s theirs and you are causing the problem. Unlikely I know but best to check.

Crumbs1 Sat 18-Nov-17 08:31:44

The best solution to most problems is not to escalate to a war but to go and talk them adult to,adult. No anger just reasonable discussion.

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