Hi all,
Please don't flame me, this has been a very stressful week. And i don't know where to turn. And I'm struggling to cope. I need advice because I'm terrified of doing something wrong.
My DS (8) has always been an a happy child. Not overly naughty. But recently, he's changed.
It started last year when he was diagnosed with dyslexia. The educational psychologist came in to see him, he's working a year behind in English, with his reading level being that of a four year old. He has always struggled academically, and he hasn't always been a model pupil. However just child like issue.
Over the last few months I've noticed him becoming more angry and frustrated, we tried to refer him to cahms but they refused to see him based on it being school aniexty issue. The frequency of the tantrums increased and he became violent at home. Hitting out a few times, however I became a bit stricter and these issues seemed to ease. Or lesson in frequency.
Recently his behaviour has changed for the worse. He has been sent home from school because of his outbursts for the last five days, Monday was because a Birthday child was giving out sweets and DS didn't get a packet. He had a meltdown resulting in him running around the school away from teachers, and me being called to collect him.
Tuesday was a very bad day with behaviour slipping from the start. He keeps removing himself from the lesson, and refusing to go back. Crying and crawling around the floor. I went in early to collect him.
I have tried to speak to DS however he just clams up. He says that some boys in his class are bullying him by calling him a cry baby. I have spoken to the school about this and they say it isn't happening. Although there was an issue where these children pushed DS over and kicked him a few weeks back, then lied about it. They confessed the next day.
I took DS to the drs because the tantrums are back at home, refusing to sleep, screaming at me, kicking out, and just very angry. I can't cope. I have no support and I'm getting depressed. I feel like a terrible mother.
Does it sound like autism? The school are saying he's probably on the spectrum due to social issues, looks right threw people when they talk, difficultly retaining information, and inability to see an accident. School can't discipline him because it isn't worth the fight. They say he shouldn't be in mainstream school.
My mum thinks that DS is naughty. And that I am not consistent enough. And that the school not sanctioning him has caused this.
I am depressed and feeling like it's all my fault. Help.
Can autism or something similar present in this way or is my DS a problem child, and I've failed as a parent.
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ClaryFray · 16/11/2017 14:01
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