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To be upset at a woman kicking my friendly 4 month old golden retriever?

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Marshmallowpops Tue 14-Nov-17 21:22:02

I am so upset. I've just come back from a walk with my puppy. She's a lovely friendly golden retriever. I've been letting her off leash in the local park as the trainer said it's best to do it early. She is really friendly and loves to play with other dogs- she often meets them all for a play date in the park in the morning- there are always lots of dogs off leash in this park. Normally when there aren't other dogs she trots along beside me, sometimes going off to sniff but coming back when called. She's not too bothered about people but will say hello and sit down (not jump up) as she is trained to do. Today it was dark at 8pm and I let her off as normal, she just trots along and comes back when called. But today she saw two women, one with a baby in a carrier) so went over to say hello (she's normally not bothered but today was a little hyper), but she just trotted over like she does, really gently and not aggressive at all. I said to the woman 'don't worry she won't jump up she'll just sit down and say hello', but before my puppy had even reached the woman, the woman started kicking her away! I could understand if the dog seemed aggressive but she's the sweetest thing. She kicked her repeatedly, my puppy came back to me, I put her on the lead, and the other woman started having a go at me asking if I thought it was acceptable for my dog to go over and attack her baby. She was smoking a cigarette. I wanted to say that is going to cause more harm to the baby than my dog ever would but I didn't. I know of course that as a mother you are very protective of your baby but I just would never attack a friendly dog. Maybe they've had bad experiences in the past. I'm just very upset. I know not everyone likes dogs but that park is so dog busy that I thought everyone was used to it by now. I think I'll keep her on a lead at night until she's really 100% with recall. She's about 90% now. So I know there will be people who say I'm in the wrong letting her off but if she had an aggressive bone in her body I would never let her off.

babyturtles Tue 14-Nov-17 21:24:37

Umm what did you say to her whilst she was kicking your dog?!

ChickenlessHead Tue 14-Nov-17 21:24:44

People can be very scared of dogs and she was holding a baby. You need to be able to call your dog back. My dh ended up kicking a dog who stuck his face into my dc’s pram when he was a few weeks old. He is shit scared of dogs and that doesn’t go away by someone telling you they’re fine.

Is your dog ok?

Ummmmgogo Tue 14-Nov-17 21:25:05

don't let your dog off lead unless you are 100% sure it will come back to you. not everyone finds your dog cute.

PurpleDaisies Tue 14-Nov-17 21:25:16

I’m a bit confused-you said she was “a bit hyper” when she went up to the woman. What would that have looked like to her?

TheCatsMother99 Tue 14-Nov-17 21:25:59

It's not acceptable for her to repeatedly kick your dog but I would also say that your dog should probably be kept on a retractable lead until she comes back each time she's called because if a woman repeatedly kicking your dog doesn't make her immediately come back then there's still work to do.

You're both in the wrong.

ChickenlessHead Tue 14-Nov-17 21:26:03

Also how could she be kicking her away if the dog hadn’t reached her? If you hadn’t said anything by the time it was I’m kicking distance then the woman wasn’t to know it was a friendly dog.

abbsisspartacus Tue 14-Nov-17 21:27:40

I'm guessing she lolloped over I love a lollopy dog personally some people don't but kicking a dog results in getting your ARSE bit so I wouldn't do that

LaurieFairyCake Tue 14-Nov-17 21:28:35

Someone kicked this?

It’s not a DOG - it’s a tiny gorgeous puppy!

Clearly the woman’s a fucking arsehole.

blueskydreams Tue 14-Nov-17 21:29:24

I am still recovering from a nasty dog bite the owner said 'he's never done that before'
I'm sure your puppy is lovely but anyone has ever been attacked by a dog is going to be nervous and dogs do attack people

londonrach Tue 14-Nov-17 21:29:39

Yabu. If your dog does not come back when you called it should not be off the lead (why mention the fact she smokes whilst holding a baby). Theres no way you should allow your dog to jump up at people. Keep her on the lead.

NovemberWitch Tue 14-Nov-17 21:30:29

So now you know; don’t let your dog run up and startle a mother with a baby. You should be upset with yourself, it was your responsibility to keep your dog safe and you failed.

PeiPeiPing Tue 14-Nov-17 21:32:26

YABU. I feel sorry for your dog but you are in the wrong.

I am sick of people letting their dogs off the lead and not being in control of them, and having them charge up to people, intruding on their personal space, spooking them, barking at them, and generally being a nuisance.

I have had dogs knock me flying several times. I got knocked into the canal once, and the woman with the dog just shot off as quick as poss. I could have fucking drowned.

Not EVERYone wants to be accosted and covered in mud and filth and slobber from your dogs - 'cute' and 'lovely and friendly,' or not hmm

Sorry, but if any dog came trotting up to my baby in its carrier, I would shove it good and proper out of the way, and yes, I would boot it, if I felt my baby was being threatened.

BastardGoDarkly Tue 14-Nov-17 21:32:36

Wow, that ops got everything hasn't it? hmm

MismatchedCat Tue 14-Nov-17 21:33:15


It's your dog - and your responsibility to prevent these situations.

Longdistance Tue 14-Nov-17 21:33:45

I’m with pp with the retractable lead. Not everyone wants dog hairs all over their clothes, or like dogs in fact. I absolutely hate dogs that jump up, it gives me the rage —cat person— I don’t want mucky paws and fur on me. Sorry my reply might not be popular, but some people are just not dog people.

Katinkka Tue 14-Nov-17 21:34:07

I’d have called her a disgusting bitch for smoking with a baby and kicking a defenceless puppy. The nasty piece of work. It wouldn’t be me who went home upset.

MadMags Tue 14-Nov-17 21:34:41

This isn’t a reverse is it?

Afternooncatnap Tue 14-Nov-17 21:35:03

Some people hate dogs. If your going to have your dog off the lead you have to accept they are at risk from other dogs and people.

I let my dog walk off the lead pretty much all the time. He's small and super cute. But some people don't like him. But he learnt not to go up to people unless encouraged pretty quick. Your dog will probably learn the same.

PeiPeiPing Tue 14-Nov-17 21:35:25

OH I just noticed the dog was 4 fucking months old.

Sorry OP - yeah that would make your dog very small and harmless.

I take back what I said. But I still stick by it with OTHER (fully grown) dog owners who don't control their dogs.

Xeneth88 Tue 14-Nov-17 21:35:28


You seem nice.

slightlyglittermaned Tue 14-Nov-17 21:35:34

TBH, some dog owners will shout "oh he's perfectly friendly! Don't worry!" regardless of whether their dog is sitting down quietly or halfway through dismembering another dog.

The ONLY thing that phrase tells me is that the dog owner is clueless and poorly trained. And so is their dog.

If your pup isn't under control, you can't let them run around off the lead in public w/o the risk of this kind of reaction.

PurplePillowCase Tue 14-Nov-17 21:36:23

be a responsible dog owner and keep your dog on a lead.
have focussed training sessions off lead in a securely fenced area.

Biggreygoose Tue 14-Nov-17 21:36:24


At 8pm it's dark.

Hyper dog not responding to owners recall runs over.

Going to put anyone on edge.... Enough to warrant a kick? Quite possibly but we weren't there.

Also, like it or not your dog could do far more damage to a baby than a cigarette.

LaurieFairyCake Tue 14-Nov-17 21:36:40


There is literally no excuse for kicking a small puppy hmm

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