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To be feeling a bit sick at the thought of another Christmas alone?

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orangelemonlimegin Tue 14-Nov-17 15:33:41

I promised myself last year this year would be different ... of course it isn't.

(Please don't suggest voluntary work. That's not what this post is.)

Opheliasgoldenwine Tue 14-Nov-17 15:35:09

That’s made me feel so sad sad

Would you like to talk about it OP? Sending lots of hugs flowers

WhatwouldAryado Tue 14-Nov-17 15:35:13

Alone without family or friends or single alone? All bring their challenges of course flowers

mrsharrison Tue 14-Nov-17 15:36:06

You need to contact old and new friends and be honest and say you're fed up and you want an invite.

WitchesGlove Tue 14-Nov-17 15:36:29

Could you afford to go abroad for a few days?

To a country where it is not such a big deal, perhaps?

Loctite Tue 14-Nov-17 15:36:48

That sounds tough OP. It can be such a hard, difficult time of year for all sorts of reasons. Hope you are ok

orangelemonlimegin Tue 14-Nov-17 15:38:47

I'm single. No family. Don't want to spend with friends (not that they've offered!)

I don't want to go abroad to be honest. I mean, it's a shit situation wherever I am.

Missstickinthemud Tue 14-Nov-17 15:42:34

I hear what you are saying. Christmas is a very difficult time of the year if you are feeling lonely, or if you are grieving. I'm sorry that Christmas this year hasn't worked out the way you hoped it would.

goose1964 Tue 14-Nov-17 15:43:35

How about volunteering or checking if your area has an organised Christmas dinner for those on their own

BriechonCheese Tue 14-Nov-17 15:43:48

I hear you.
That has to be very difficult.
What would you like to do?

Rebeccaslicker Tue 14-Nov-17 15:44:40

Urgh OP. Being alone is great when you want to be - and so shit when you don't. All the flowers and wine and cake for you.

goose1964 Tue 14-Nov-17 15:44:53

Sorry about the suggestion about volunteering but I wonder if you are vetoing it for the right reasons. Your post has come over as if you are depressed

MonaChopsis Tue 14-Nov-17 15:44:58

I was in this situation last year. I bought an expensive box set and did a binge watch with champagne and nibbles etc. It was okay.

I know it is shite really, so I would advise focusing on making it a bit less shite rather than pretending you can makes it into a lovely day.

dinosaursandtea Tue 14-Nov-17 15:46:15

goose please don’t disrespect the OP’s request.

GretaBritain Tue 14-Nov-17 15:48:18

Can you not spend some time with friends for part of the day only?

If you have no family, don't want to volunteer or go away and don't want to be with friends then what else is there??

Another option is to bury your head in the sand and pretend it isn't a significant day...I have done this myself on certain occasions. Distract yourself by doing something else? Diy? The time passes eventually.

Stay up all of Christmas Eve, sleep away Christmas Day?

Whatever you do yes it is shit and you have my sympathies and some flowers

listsandbudgets Tue 14-Nov-17 15:50:51

If there's no one you wnat to / can spend it with then sounds like you need to make the best of it.

A whole day doing exactly what you like. you favourite foods, best chocolates, long lie in, lovely comfy clothes, whatever you like on tv.

Hard to know exactly what to say but I hope that you have a lovely day in whatever way you can

orangelemonlimegin Tue 14-Nov-17 15:51:48

It'll be okay I know mona

I've spent every Christmas alone since I was 17 though and I wanted things to be different.

I'm vetoing the voluntary work because I'm already doing it. But I don't want to. Maybe that is selfish but I don't. I want to be with my husband watching our children open presents.

Vashna Tue 14-Nov-17 15:53:56

So sorry OP. Would you mind my asking how old you are?

ApplesinmyPocket Tue 14-Nov-17 15:54:02

Sarah Millican does a #joinin day on Twitter for those alone on Christmas Day - so they can feel a bit less alone.

She explains about it here

Not saying that will appeal to you, orangelemonlimegin flowers but just in case

user1486915549 Tue 14-Nov-17 15:55:46

How about going away with a solo traveller company ?
Just You do lots of Christmas breaks both in UK and abroad.
Friends highly recommend them.

Ishouldbedoingsomething Tue 14-Nov-17 15:57:02

Why don’t you invite friends to yours - for drinks in the evening if you don’t fancy making dinner for everyone.

livefornaps Tue 14-Nov-17 15:57:43

Where are your husband and children?

ArcheryAnnie Tue 14-Nov-17 15:58:16

How old are you, OP?

orangelemonlimegin Tue 14-Nov-17 16:00:59

I'm 37. Friends will be busy with own children.

GetSchwifty Tue 14-Nov-17 16:01:58

Would you consider attending a church service, even if you’re not religious, so you can get out and have some interaction with other people. There may be others on their own there too.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Is there anybody you can plan to skype/FaceTime with on the day?

If it were me I would put on some music, have a glass of fizz, long bath, go for a walk but I understand you may not feel like doing any of that.

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