I've got to the end of my tether. For months I've been having polite discussions, I've begged, I've shouted, I've cried, I've explained calmly, but nothing I say will stop my husband from playing on his phone constantly. He seems to be incapable of putting it down. He works hard for a living, always working later than his finish time to help out colleagues and often working on his days off (this is another separate issue). From the moment he gets in, he is lost in 'phone world'. He ignores our son, who has also got to the point that he no longer has any interest in his father. I've tried setting boundaries e.g. Phone goes off when he gets in and can be switched back on once LO is in bed. I've tried physically taking it away from him and putting it on a shelf, but as soon as my back is turned, it's in his hand again. I've hidden it a couple of times, but he's sulked and then got lost in 'TV world'. But honestly, I shouldn't have to take his phone away from him to force him to spend some time with his child either playing or helping me out by feeding him whilst I'm rushing around trying to cook dinner and clean!
He's physically there, but he's just not present. I've told him it's making me depressed because I'm not getting any help from him, I've told him it's destroyed his relationship with our son, I've told him it's destroying our marriage. I don't mind him spending the entire rest of the evening on his phone once our LO is in bed, but I cannot put up with him being glued to his phone when his family needs him.
Would I be unreasonable to ask his mum to talk to him??
(Just to pre-empt any suspicions- no he's not having an affair. His phone is linked to mine. I can see where he is, who he's messaging etc. He spends his time watching YouTube videos about bike maintenance and car detailing).
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AIBU to ask MIL to have a word with her son?
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brapbrapbrap · 13/11/2017 21:20
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