As title.
I’ve had a bit of a crap week re friends, been let down by one of my so called ‘best friends’ which isn’t the first time, but I think it’ll be the last as I’ve decided to cut her loose, as sad as that makes me feel.
I’m 30 and in the last couple of years, my social circle has really dwindled. Two very good friends have both relocated for work, another has just had a baby, others seem to have drifted off and met other friends.
I feel sad and left behind. I’ve made quite a big effort over the last couple of weeks to get in touch with friends I haven’t seen for a while, inviting them to meet up etc. Only one has responded. I’ve had two friends in the last couple of months, that I hadn’t seen for a while, want to meet up. Which I did with both of them, and it became apparent within the first 10 minutes that there was an ulterior motive for wanting to meet up. Both of them had ‘problems’ they wanted to talk about. Which is fine, I’m a good listener and care about my friends, but both these have form for only seeming to want to get in contact/ meet up when they have problems in order to use me as some sort of free agony aunt/ counsellor and it’s made me feel really used.
I feel like it is always me pedalling most of my friendships nowadays and I’m getting a bit sick of it.
I’m generally a really busy person and don’t have a lot of time to take up any new hobbies, the ones I have keep me busy enough (and I am lucky in that I have made friends from them, everyone just seems a bit distant nowadays though)
So in a ‘last ditch attempt’ if you like this afternoon, I downloaded Bumble BFF. I haven’t properly used it yet though and am doing so with a bit of tredeptation. When I was single I used Tinder a bit and didn’t think twice about ‘swiping left’ and ‘rejecting’ people on there, but I feel really mean doing it to potential ‘friends.’
I also worry that no one will like me/ swipe ‘left’ and my search for friends on Bumble will be fruitless and ill just end up mad dog lady
I think this post is half wanting to vent and wondering whether it’s just me with ‘friends’ like I have at the moment and half genuinely wondering whether anyone has used Bumble BFF successfully?
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To ask if anyone else feels lonely/ has crap friends and therefore joined Bumble?!
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JRT2017 · 12/11/2017 16:41
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