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AIBU?

To be fed up with people confusing dd for a boy?

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Mumsiemummy1 · 12/11/2017 08:42

Fairly light hearted and aimed more at the clothes she is wearing than just general mistakes which are completely innocent.

I have never really liked dressing DD (9months) in pink, I don't really wear pink myself, and all of her newborn stuff was pink so i got very bored of it. She now wears lots of colours, including blue, black, green, red...all girls clothes just not pink.

Whenever we are out people talk to her as a boy, "hi little man", "you're a good little boy" etc

I just find it really frustrating that I have to dress her in pink for people to call her a girl.

Anyone else share this frustration.

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butterbeansinsoup · 12/11/2017 08:43

I think it's more of a 9 month old baby thing, even the cutest of them resemble old men Wink

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lovelyjubilly · 12/11/2017 08:43

Yes! Someone once said to me "What's that in his hair?"
"A hairclip" I replied.

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 12/11/2017 08:45

People are just odd. I once took DD out in a dress which was blue and had pink butterflies on. An old guy keep saying things like what a handsome chap. She was in a dress ffs. 😀

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elQuintoConyo · 12/11/2017 08:45

She is 9mo, all babies just look like babies at that age. People with no imagination see Pink Baby = girl, Interesting Colours Baby = boy.

I really would not take it to heart.

DS was mistaken for a girl until about 2yo. I found it funny when people asked 'what's her name' and i answered 'Clive'. The looks on their faces Grin

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Dancingfairy · 12/11/2017 08:46

I had this even when dd was dressed in a pink dress sitting in a pink pram. I actually think it's just something people say regardless.

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MagicFajita · 12/11/2017 08:47

It doesn't really matter , does it? Up to a certain age all babies look cute and androgynous. My oldest son had what i'd call a "pretty" face up to about the age of 7.

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StepAwayFromGoogle · 12/11/2017 08:49

I had exactly the same thing, OP. At about 10 months I gave up and dyed all her clothes pink Grin. Now I look back and she really did look like a boy!

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Mumsiemummy1 · 12/11/2017 08:50

It's not that it matters, I suppose it's just a sterotype thing with pink that I find annoying. That she will be assumed a boy unless wearing it, or at least that has been my experience.

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Mumsiemummy1 · 12/11/2017 08:50

It's not that it matters, I suppose it's just a sterotype thing with pink that I find annoying. That she will be assumed a boy unless wearing it, or at least that has been my experience.

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WaxOnFeckOff · 12/11/2017 08:52

My DS2 was always mistaken as a girl until he grew a beard. He still has a pretty face and long hair but is 6'2 and built like a rugby forward.

Ime, people don't really look.

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gothicsprout · 12/11/2017 08:54

Same here - even putting her in pink and/or dresses makes not much difference. I didn't think it would bother me, but when it's every single time I feel a bit Sad

When I bother to correct people they often make an excuse that 'it's because she's not got much hair' Hmm babies don't have much hair in general do they??

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TookyClothespin · 12/11/2017 08:55

I regularly got asked questions like "how old is he" etc when DD1 was a baby. Even when she was wearing a pink flowery dress.
It happens with DD2, but less so. Not sure why, she wears the same clothes. It doesn't bother me.

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londonrach · 12/11/2017 08:55

It happens even ifyou dress dd in pink and they look female. My dd was dressed head and toe in pink once and a man said what a cute boy. My dfriend and i couldnt believe it. Its very hard to tell sex when a baby.

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TheQueenOfWands · 12/11/2017 08:55

DS was mistaken for a girl until he was about 10.

Flatly refused a haircut...

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TanteRose · 12/11/2017 08:57

Literally just asked the mother of an adorable baby "Aww, adorable - what's his name?"
"Emma"
Blush

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chutneypig · 12/11/2017 08:58

I have boy/girl twins and had this up to the age of two or so regularly. DD didn’t have much hair and I usually put it down to that. She could be wearing head to toe pink and we’d still get the assumption she was a boy. One person in the supermarket asked which one was the girl and his friend told him it was the one in the dress.

DD at 10 still gets called young man occasionally, and I think it’s usually when people can’t see her long hair.

It’s more down to a quick glance than anything that annoyed me.

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catboygeckoandowlett · 12/11/2017 09:02

My little man was always called a girl until he was around 4.5 !! I tried really hard when he was a baby to dress him in blue boy looking clothes!! Because I got fed up! But people continued to say 'ahhh isn't she lovely' and things like that (blue jeans with diggers on, tops with trucks on .... etc... even tops with 'big brother' on made no difference!!! Now he wears leggings for running and cycling and occasionally pink! But no one ever confuses him for a girl!!! I think people only look at faces when they are babies and toddlers! And DS has long lashes and cute dimples! That's all I can think it could have been! (Oh and he had long ish hair til age 3!)

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TheWildOnes · 12/11/2017 09:07

My youngest is 2 1/2 and gets mistaken for a girl all the time. He does have quite long blonde curly hair though and I dress him in a lot of unisex clothes (patterned leggings etc). Doesn't bother me but for some reason it does bother DH. Sometimes I correct people, sometimes I dont bother.

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TroelsLovesSquinkies · 12/11/2017 09:11

It really doesn't matter what colour they are in, Ds2 was mistaken for a girl till he was past 3. He's be dressed in Jeans and a blue t shirt with a car on the front and still they said he was a girl, it was the blond hair and large brown cow eyes.

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hapagirl · 12/11/2017 09:14

DH was out with DD when she was about 18 months and walking. A man came up to him and ask why his “son” was in a dress. DH was Hmm

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didofido · 12/11/2017 09:15

Back in the days of long hair on boys, my DS, 'pretty', with dark curly hair, and wearing jeans and a jumper, had to have his dislocated shoulder fixed at A&E. He was stoical throughout a painful process. When at last he was lifted down from the table, the (male) nurse said "You HAVE been a brave girl!" Whereupon he burst into tears...

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LittleWitch · 12/11/2017 09:15

DS1 was very pretty as a baby, lots of black ringlets, dark brown eyes, long eyelashes and was mistaken for a girl until he was about 18 months. I was still being taken for a boy until I was 19 - years, not months Grin.

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Booboostwo · 12/11/2017 09:17

DD was often mistaken for a boy at that age and DS was often mistaken for a girl. They both wore the same clothes. It's a baby thing, babies just look like babies. Personally I don't think it's important to highlight a baby's sex.

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becotide · 12/11/2017 09:18

it's really hard to tell, ESPECIALLY as people often dress their children in whatever comes to hand

Ds2 was mistaken for a girl until he was 3! Pretty face, you see.

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Lules · 12/11/2017 09:18

People think my baby is a girl. He's usually dressed in light colours and he's quite small. It is hard to tell.

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