Long long friendship since mums and tots . We have been through a lot together and i love her and her 3 children dearly. Her eldest dd has just gone to uni leaving her with 2 DSs. 15 and 16 . She had always been a bit erratic but a great mum. Last few years she has been a bit restless - tried setting up a business, got hooked up with a bloke she met abroad and keeps going off to visit, falling out with ex etc . Business didn’t take off but I was able to employ her in a well paid admin role. She started in Jan . Doing well . The job pays 20k and I am very flexible with her . Her relationship with her sons is a bit volatile- I help out where I can (my DH Has taken the eldest on as an apprentice) . Youngest is thrown out of school so doing a college Btec type thing (not attending much). I come back from holiday today and find out she had handed in her notice to go travelling and find herself . Wants to teach DSs a lesson!! Says they will have to go to there fathers ( he says no! He lives about 20 miles away with a new family) . I talked to her about getting family therapy or something but she won’t . Says the boys are disrespectful and abusive so she’s off . Flights booked goes in a month . Don’t know how to respond to her but I just feel that she will never fix her relationship with her boys if she goes away . We had a shouting match today. Do I just step away or support her?????
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