Today we have spent the afternoon at the in laws. I was quite looking forward to it, even though generally mil and I don't have the closest relationship, but it's nice to take DD and usually fine.
Today I have left feeling quite upset. Alot of the behaviour isn't untypical of them, but it seems to have touched a nerve today.
DD for some reason has been very clingy with dh for the last few days. It's very sweet and causes no issue between dh and I, however all afternoon today I have been made to feel utterly worthless by mil and gmil who have spent the entire afternoon talking and commenting on how she only wants dh. Even when DD reached for me, she would either be pulled from my arms, or it would be followed by "oh look she want the remote", or some other inanimate object close by rather than her wanting her mum.
When dh left the room, DD would be antagonised by both commenting on "where's daddy" etc which would have DD wriggling in my arms, to which she would then be pulled away.
I actually ended up having a little cry in the toilet as it was breaking my heart a little. There was no social awareness that it might be nice to follow it with some kind of acknowledgement of my existence.
On top of this, I have today for the millionth time had to defend my business to mil and gmil who constantly make comments like "oh so it's still busy", "oh I thought it would be around anymore". I have worked for 5 years building my business that emplys 3 fulltime members of staff and is on track for it's best year yet. Admittedly it is an industry they know little about, but it's rude and hurtful to keep assuming it's a day away from closure just because they don't take the time to understand it.
I was also called fat by both mil and gmil, who like to comment on my size as I am 20 weeks pregnant. My dd is only 9 months old so I am a little sensitive about my weight, as didn't have alot of time to recover from DD, but as two women, surely there should be more social awareness about making these kind of comments to any woman.
I feel really low and insecure now I'm home. Would you feel the same? Am I over reacting?
AIBU?
To have left feeling quite upset?
Mumsiemummy1 · 11/11/2017 17:15
How very unpleasant for you... what on earth were these women thinking? If they want contact with your children they need to start behaving rather better towards their mother.
As regards their deliberate putting down of your business, I can only presume that they didn't have careers of their own.
Perhaps you could stay away from them for a while... make a point of turning down the next invitation and if they ask why they haven't seen you then tell them that they made you feel uncomfortable.
Or perhaps you could ask your husband to have a word on your behalf.
Good grief! They sound absolutely awful. I really wouldn’t be going back in a hurry and I would want to know why your dh thinks its just fine and dandy for the mother of his children to be treated in this way. Ignorant bitches!! I am 
on your behalf.
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