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TroutySnouts Sat 11-Nov-17 13:20:18

Went food shopping today with DH and 8 month old son. Had to park in a regular space beyond the parent and child spaces as there were none free.
Walking back to the car via the parent and child bit, a car swings into the parent and child section quite quickly and stops just in front of us. Parent and child section is one way and driver is driving the wrong way round the one way system.
DH shouts at the car and gestures that it’s one way. Driver rolls down the window to ask what my husband’s problem is and DH says ‘it’s one way you fucking prick.’ I’m standing there with DS and there is a kid (looked to be around 8) in driver’s car. The car drives off and we continue to our car.
As I’m putting DS into the car, driver pulls up next to us and starts on DH, asking if he thinks he’s a big man etc etc and such willy waving bullshit. DH just kind of laughs sarcastically and keeps loading up our car with shopping until driver drives off.
AIBU to be annoyed at DH for:
firstly - potentially putting us in a dangerous position when he should have just let it go,
Secondly - swearing at the driver guy when he had a kid in the car

AdalindSchade Sat 11-Nov-17 13:22:28

I'd have done the same to a dickhead driver driving the wrong way who almost hit me and my kid

Pollydonia Sat 11-Nov-17 13:25:12

No I don't think he was bu. I think he was being protective of you and your DC.

Cornettoninja Sat 11-Nov-17 13:31:36

God my dp pulls this kind of shite and I hate it.

In my mind when he's with me and dd he needs to be the bigger person unless absolutely unavoidable. There are absolute nutters out there who would happily cave his head in given an excuse and I don't believe in inviting trouble to my doorstep.

On his own he's welcome to crack on, but I won't have him force my dd to witness that.

MumW Sat 11-Nov-17 13:33:02

DH NBU to challenge driver but his choice of words were totally out of order unfortunate.

BernardBlacksHangover Sat 11-Nov-17 13:33:39

YABU and yanbu imo, I’d have been pretty irritated too if I was you or your dh. But probably shouting at the other man wasn’t ideal.

Oysterbabe Sat 11-Nov-17 13:36:58

I feel the same as Cornettoninja
I wish DH would just let shit like this go. Mine gets into some kind of beeping, gesturing, altercation with someone every single time we drive a long distance. Yes there a lot of people who drive like arseholes but rise above it because one day one of them will be a proper nutjob and ram us off the road or something.

khajiit13 Sat 11-Nov-17 13:37:41

Yanbu. I would want to act exactly as your OH did but would not due to the same concerns you have. I am able to control my emotions. Does your OH usually struggle to control himself?

Wolfiefan Sat 11-Nov-17 13:38:54

He wasn't unreasonable to challenge the idiot driver.
He was unreasonable to do it in that way. Has he heard of road rage? What if the idiot has got out of the car with a knife?
And to talk like that in front of his kids? Unreasonable too!

ShatnersWig Sat 11-Nov-17 13:51:37

Driver was a pillock, so was your husband.

theduchessstill Sat 11-Nov-17 13:53:32

Whatever the other driver had done shouting and swearing in front of two children is awful imo. It easy to go the wrong way around an unfamiliar carpark, though he shouldn't have been going 'quite quickly', and I agree with you that your dh was UR.

I don't agree with those excusing his aggression with reference to his protective feelings. It is possible to be protective of one's family without resorting to macho willy-waving, as the OP terms it.

underkerstumbled Sat 11-Nov-17 13:59:31

I disapprove of anyone using that sort of language in front of small children.

doubletroublemum Sat 11-Nov-17 14:02:04

Once when I was walking to my car with DH and my son in the trolley, crossing on the pedestrian crossing-a car actually drove into our trolley causing my son to smack his head onto the trolley.

I lost it. (And normally a very calm person who is very hard to anger)

My DH had to calm me down and send me and my son away so he could have a word with the driver.

I don't think he was BU at all. Besides it's a very public place so I think the only time your safety was in question is when this knob was driving dangerously around the family car park!!

NachoAddict Sat 11-Nov-17 14:12:38

I feel the same as you. Much as I would like to call out such bad driving I do think it os dangerous to start behaving agressively and these things can easily spiral out of control.

TroutySnouts Sat 11-Nov-17 14:18:09

ShatnersWig my thoughts exactly

overnightangel Sat 11-Nov-17 14:18:23

I’d say he was well within his rights to call him a prick.

PurpleDaisies Sat 11-Nov-17 14:20:18

I had a collision with a driver going the wrong way system that wrote off my car. Your dh wasn’t wrong to challenge them.

kinkajoukid Sat 11-Nov-17 14:53:01

I'd say absolutely challenge bad drivers or other selfish fuckers, so go for it..... until the "fucking prick" part.

You then just lose all moral high ground and aggravate people by being aggressive. Hard sometimes to rein the language sometimes, especially after a shock, but swearing like that it is not effective, and terrible in front of children and in public place. Idiot would still be inflammatory.

You just have to leave out the insults however well deserved.

Guavaf1sh Sat 11-Nov-17 14:57:22

Well done him

TroutySnouts Sat 11-Nov-17 16:48:00

Kinkajoukid I completely agree and that’s pretty much exactly what I said to him afterwards

Splinterz Sat 11-Nov-17 16:50:34

One day, the gob shit who calls someone a prick, will end up with a knife in the ribs.

Not worth it is it?

Myheartbelongsto Sat 11-Nov-17 17:06:45

Maybe in future your husband could be less aggressive.

AnnabellaH Sat 11-Nov-17 17:12:08

I'm normally the one calling out the pricks op so I guess I have to say YABU.

Julie8008 Sat 11-Nov-17 17:45:57

Its wasn't a one way road it was a car park. Don't be so anal about such trivia.

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