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Aggressive swearing in earshot of 9-year-old

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flowersonthepiano Sat 11-Nov-17 10:22:29

DH lost the plot this morning, air turned very deep blue. All because of a bloody stapler! hmm I really don't give a shit, I know what he's like. But DS, who's 9, was genuinely frightened, as was the dog. I think, when there are kids around, you tone it down a bit? It's not on to shout 'Fucking fucking piece of SHIT!!' several times and start banging things about. AIBU?

BarbarianMum Sat 11-Nov-17 10:26:34

Probably I'll be shot down in flames but i think 9 is old enough to hear your dad (or mum) lose it, provided the anger/swearing isn't directed at you.

AnneLovesGilbert Sat 11-Nov-17 10:27:48

No of course YANBU. Has he apologised for his ridiculous outburst and for scaring your son?

It's worrying you "know what he's like" if that means he's frequently given to uncontrolled shouting and swearing. It's not okay.

Everyone gets annoyed but impulse control is an important part of being an adult and it's a choice to suck it up and not lose your shit when things don't do your way instead of unleashing a tirade on innocent people nearby.

What a prick.

QueenNovo Sat 11-Nov-17 10:28:38

I'd overlook the swearing, I'd probably let out a few choice ones too if I'd just stapled my finger but the banging things about was too much if it scared DS and the dog.

WhatwouldAryado Sat 11-Nov-17 10:29:01

No one needs to hear someone lose their shit over something trivial like a stapler. What happens when something actually bad happens? No wonder the child was scared.

Pengggwn Sat 11-Nov-17 10:42:36

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Pengggwn Sat 11-Nov-17 10:43:12

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flowersonthepiano Sat 11-Nov-17 10:44:45

He didn't apologise exactly, but did reassure DS, who was cowering on my lap, "don't worry, I am angry with the stapler, not you". He does have form for these outbursts, but only with inanimate objects.

Pengggwn Sat 11-Nov-17 10:45:32

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flowersonthepiano Sat 11-Nov-17 10:45:58

Yes, he just couldn't get it to work. He didn't staple himself.

flowersonthepiano Sat 11-Nov-17 10:47:12

Not that often. Maybe a few times a year. I generally good out if he's attempting DIY...

flowersonthepiano Sat 11-Nov-17 10:47:38

go out

Pengggwn Sat 11-Nov-17 10:48:27

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BackforGood Sat 11-Nov-17 10:58:40

But DS, who's 9, was genuinely frightened, as was the dog.

There's your answer. If a child is frightened in their own home / of their own parent, then that is Emotional Abuse.

QueenNovo Sat 11-Nov-17 10:59:13

Oops must have taken "bloody stapler" a bit too literally blush.

mikeyssister Sat 11-Nov-17 11:17:43

I think a lot of it is down to how you handle it. DH occasionally has these outbursts too. I used laugh and tell DC "silly Daddy, he can't get the stapler to work, maybe we should buy him a new one for his birthday".

If you can't have that laugh and joke and then a quiet word to your husband away from your DS then you have a whole other problem going on that needs to be sorted.

scrabble1 Sat 11-Nov-17 11:45:13

My DH has become chronically irritable recently. I'm convinced it is his age ☹️

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