I’m having a shit time with my mental health but I’m being proactive about it.
I’m also very aware that I can be a snappy arsehole because of it, or because I’m stressed of taking on 96396 things.
Over a year ago my husband inherited a house. Which is bloody amazing. Seriously amazing actually.
The deeds aren’t ours yet. A few things have gone through, probate and stuff but it’s still not finalised.
But recently (the last few months) changes have happened and he hasn’t been telling me.
For example, the solicitor gave him the keys to the property. This is a big deal, it means progress!
He didn’t tell me, he told my dad at a family gathering and I was surprised and it was clear I had no idea. I felt really stupid because of that. Apparently he had been given them ‘the week before’.
He only tells me of ‘progress’ if I ask about it
Recently a relative of the persons estate has decided they don’t like the outcome of the late persons estate and wants to contest it. That’s fine.
Tonight in passing I ask DH about it and he says ‘yeah the relative has got their solicitor involved.’ And ‘it could take another year.’
I was pissed off because he neve bloody tells me any of this (unless prompted) and whenever I ask him why he didn’t tell me he says he ‘only found out last week’
He says why would he tell me, it changes nothing.
He cannot see and makes no attempt to see things from my point of view that not only am I being kept out of the loop, that yes it does change things.
It changes mine and our children’s future.
We were told we would have the house by last Christmas (which is laughable now I think about it!) to Now the relative is contesting it could add on a year or however much time it doesn’t really matter.
Would you be pissed off if your DH kept you out the loop and continued to do so?
I feel like I’m not part of it and have no idea how mine and my children’s future looks and he doesn’t and will try to understand this.
As I said, I’m under a lot of pressure at the moment so if I’m in the wrong then I will take this on board.
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DingleBerries · 09/11/2017 22:27
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