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To have a carer for depression

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mallardduckponds Thu 09-Nov-17 15:56:13

Can you do this? Someone to help prompt showers and other self care, maybe go on a walk with you and so on?

Ollivander84 Thu 09-Nov-17 15:57:53

I don't see why not. Some people have carers for companionship so it's similar really

ButchyRestingFace Thu 09-Nov-17 15:58:36

Do you mean a state funded one?

If you are self funding, I imagine you could employ someone to do those things.

millifiori Thu 09-Nov-17 15:59:11

Why not? Good idea. It is a debilitating illness that makes you struggle to cope with the basics of life.

mustbemad17 Thu 09-Nov-17 15:59:34

A PA would be more what you need I think. Think it would have to be self funded tho x

MrsJayy Thu 09-Nov-17 15:59:42

You most certainly could employ a carer have you spoken to your Gp or CPN if you are struggiling ? I know of 1 person who had a care package when they were going through a crisis due totheir mental illness.

mallardduckponds Thu 09-Nov-17 16:00:43

Don't have a CPN but it would be self funded. Would only need maybe 2 hours or so.

Bunchofdaffodils Thu 09-Nov-17 16:01:45

Great idea. For people without a supportive partner that would be ideal. Maybe contact an elderly care agency and see if they can sign post you to any that cater for this need.

Justbookedasummmerholiday Thu 09-Nov-17 16:01:59

I am a cleaner but have had a 'job' watching a film and going for a coffee with a man with social anxiety issues.
There are many sympathetic people op who are there for others when necessary.

MrsJayy Thu 09-Nov-17 16:02:38

Would you be able to pay somebody ? You could contact local care companies to discuss what you need,

mustbemad17 Thu 09-Nov-17 16:08:20

If it's self funded the possibilites are endless. Local care companies would be able to help; we had a lady that we literally went to for company three times a week. I do know it can be exceptionally tricky to get this sort of care funded by the state sadly

mallardduckponds Thu 09-Nov-17 16:10:00

I understand that as some people genuinely can't physically do some stuff but I find it so hard to go out alone. If someone had a walk with me once a day it would make such a difference.

Dozer Thu 09-Nov-17 16:11:14

Sounds like a great idea.

Needadvicetoleave Thu 09-Nov-17 16:12:11

Unless self funding (in which case, off you go!) you would need an assessment from adult social care, and if you met the eligibility criteria set out in the Care Act 2015 then you would be eligible to have a carer to meet the needs assessed as eligible, if these are personal care, social support then you could have a care plan commissioned for you. The support would be means tested and could be delivered as a direct payment (where you could employ a PA) or commissioned care, where the local authority would commission a care agency to do it.

Prusik Thu 09-Nov-17 16:13:59

At my worst I went to stay with my parents (my partner sent me to my parents). My step dad (mum was at work) would tell me when to get up, when to showe, when to eat/drink, when to dress. I was literally a zombie other than that.

mustbemad17 Thu 09-Nov-17 16:15:56

Maybe have a look for a PA, you can tailor things around you then 🙂

UnbornMortificado Thu 09-Nov-17 16:16:46

My gran self funds a cleaner who does one hour cleaning and two hours just company really. She's a saint, if on the off chance your in the north east I can pass on her details.

mallardduckponds Thu 09-Nov-17 16:17:08

A PA would need more hours though surely ... most people
Wouldn't be willing to work maybe 12-2 5 days a week?

frumpety Thu 09-Nov-17 16:21:19

There may actually be services available who would be willing to help you with this in your local area , have a look online at the living well project , some areas seem to focus on the elderly , but in other areas , those who have difficulties due to mental ill health can get support too .

astoundedgoat Thu 09-Nov-17 16:21:35

Definitely. I have seen ads like this a lot on a local site in my old city.

A couple of hours twice a week, to get you up and running, and perhaps do a little bit of a tidy while she's there and involve you in that too perhaps.

It's a really good - and proactive - idea. Perhaps get someone to help you screen someone really good?

GrasswillbeGreener Thu 09-Nov-17 16:21:48

I think you are definitely onto something here, that would help me out too. I need to try to organise a cleaner and part of it I know is that having someone around I'd get more done. At my bad times someone coming in for, say, an hour each morning would have made a real difference. I suspect someone working as a cleaner might be willing to have a more varied remit of "tasks".

At one point a few years ago now, when I was getting some psychology support my counsellor felt I could really do with a CPN but I always "present too well" outside the house to trigger such things.

Hope you can come up with something useful.

mustbemad17 Thu 09-Nov-17 16:25:48

Depends OP. I know a couple of PA's who split their working week between two or three people with shorter hour needs 🙂 Of course there are some who would want x amount of hours with just you per week, but in the care industry a lot of PA's split their time

Str4ngedaysindeed Thu 09-Nov-17 16:26:39

There should be agencies ( as in organisations) that can find volunteers for companionship in your area. Age UK is the obvious one but places like Care Network may be able to help

mustbemad17 Thu 09-Nov-17 16:27:48

Have you had a look on the MIND site? Not sure if they still offer it but when I was at Uni I volunteered with them as a companion; we literally went & helped anyone who needed a bit of support. I did shopping for people, or accompanied them shopping; took them out for coffee, things like that. It was free, all the person being supported had to do was cover any costs such as bus far to the shop or whatever

mallardduckponds Thu 09-Nov-17 16:27:50

I'm not keen on the idea of a volunteer as I'd feel I couldn't ask too much from them. Whereas if it was a carer I could.

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