Hi all. New girl here My husband (3 yrs apart) has so far tried taking my daughter off me (failed) abused me through social media, texts, cards through the door and even tried fighting my boyfriend over the past 3 years. He always cheated on me hence why I finally had the courage to end it after he didn't come home all weekend after our daughter was in hospital for few days with stomach problems. Anyway.... he's been living with a woman who doesn't work and is on benefits and recently my ex had been bragging to me that he now has a lot more money to play with and is loving life without me, still trying to make me feel jealous even after 3 years. (He's nuts trust me). Soooo, I reported him and her for benefit fraud as I work full time to put a roof over my daughter she head and yes he pays maintenance but won't even cloth her when she's in his care. But he'll brag about his lifestyle. Yes it maybe bit of revenge but my god I've been ill living with him. Anyway he's now trying to excuse me of fraud! I work full time and so does my boyfriend, yes he stays few nights and I stay at his few nights. He has kids to look after I have my daughter to look after. He pays council tax etc. Are we in the wrong??? Sorry for long read
He will not contribute to school trips, clothes for her, school items she has needed. Just about feeds her in his care, doesn't even have toothpaste and toothbrush for her at his, yet turns up to collect her in brand new car bragging he's loving life and is no longer paying rent or (our) mortgage which I'm paying alone. He's not out of my life by no means as I still get text abuse from him after drink.
As you both appear to have your sole and main place of residence in different dwellings, with each responsible for your own bills, then no, based on what you've told us you're not committing fraud in any way.
There will be loads of people here who think it's wrong to report people committing fraud especially if you've personal reasons for it but it's theft. If you saw someone stealing in a shop I bet you would say something. If your neighbour saw someone stealing your car or breaking into your house then you'd hope they would say something. Benefit fraud is no different. It is theft from the state, it makes life harder for genuine claimants, reduces the amount of money available and increases everyone else's tax bill. You don't have to be certain or hold all the evidence. The fraud team will look at that and make a decision to prosecute or not.
Is this healthy for you? Probably not. You will probably not find out if anything happens and you might get grief in return. Personally I think you should disengage. Change your phone number and only contact him about the kids. Block him on social media, reduce the friends you have in common and live a happy life.
I doubt his life is wonderful but he certainly wants you to think it is. you should be focusing on how happy you are to no longer be in a relationship with the tool. You can take legal steps to stop his drunken texts and abuse or have a friend do the handovers. You need to minimise contact.
Just to say, I saw a TV documentary about benefit fraud where it was decided by investigators that 2 individuals were actually "a household" and therefore fraudulently claiming separate benefits at 2 rented addresses.